In a world where slim, slender, and sexy are the standards of the society, obesity has no place. From television programs, commercials, and product advertisements to magazine features, billboards, and internet pop-ups, you won’t be able to find men unpacked with biceps, triceps, and abdominal muscles nor women with vital statistics other than 36-24-36.
How strange society can be! It dictates what is wrong and what is right, what is proper and what is not that if you feel you don’t belong to the “in” crowd, how sad and low can you be? People judge other people with no reasonable bases making the discriminated ones feel left out and unwanted.
As sensitive people who belong to such unfriendly societies, we get affected by cold treatments and pathetic stares. But we can’t let anybody make us feel inferior to them anytime. We were all created equal. Thus, we deserve to be feeling what they are feeling, to be doing what they are doing, and to be living how they are living in this strange world.
But reality check: how can we feel, do, and live the way other people do if there really is something that hinders us?
I used to be fat myself when I was young. Somehow, I felt inferior and caused me to envy a lot of people. I started wondering, why can’t my crush notice me? Or why can’t I join popularity contests? Is it really because of my physical attributes, particularly my body weight and figure? It’s sad to see that my slim friends and classmates got to have whatever they like while I couldn’t. Indeed, it was because I was fat, and they are not. Even though the effects of my disorder was purely psychological and didn’t bring any other biological problems, still it was unhappy and unhealthy.
As time passed by, I realized that I don’t want to be left out. Instead, I want to be noticed and recognized. I want to feel happy, healthy, and satisfied. Thus, I made an effort to lose weight and get rid of excess fats in my body. Thankfully, with an ounce of willingness, a cup of patience, and a spoon of determination, I was able to achieve what once was only a dream. Such comments like “You look slimmer,” or “Have you lost weight? Tell me your secret,” was really music to my ears.
I have traveled the path of overweight and unhappiness in a single journey; it wasn’t really a smooth ride – a trip not worth remembering. But, on the other hand, without that experience, I wouldn’t have been in my position now – happy and contented, the real richness in the world.
I have used self-hypnosis to make sure my mind reinforced what my body needed to do. It was really amazing setting up my mind to 'control' what I wanted to achieve. I understood the importance of setting realisable and achieveable goals, and then by a simple process of repetition, programmed muy mind to anticipate success - and it worked.
Thus, if I can do it, so can you. I don’t want any other people to feel what I felt before – unwanted, alone, and taken for granted. Or worse, might even suffer from complications and other illnesses. Being fat, overweight, or obese is unhealthy, both in the mind and in the body. We know it. We’ve been there, right? Now, come with me to a journey where we can change not only our body size, weight, and figure, but our lives as well. There’s nothing more wonderful than being able to do what you want to do or to go where you’d like you go. That is real happiness and contentment. And like me, you too can achieve it.
In a world where slim, slender, and sexy are the standards of the society, obesity has to go. So, let’s go terminate it!
- About The Author
Jane Morris is a member of Horizon Direct Services, and has written a number of articles on self improvement. The book can be downloaded at http://tinyurl.com/7jopr www.horizondirectservices.com Jane’s main site, with links to a number of other self-improvement products and services www.mindpowersite.com self-hypnosis CD’s for a number of complimentary self-improvement topics www.weightlosspatch.com Weight loss patch by Visifirm
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Friday, November 24, 2006
How To Get Sexy Legs In Just 3 Steps by: Janice Wee
Guys do get distracted by long, lean, sexy legs peeking from the slit of a skirt, or flaunted in a mini skirt.
Any woman can have sexy legs. All you need to do is to keep your legs toned and wax them regularly.
Even cross dressers are able to make their legs look sexy.
To start with, first, you need to get your legs in shape. That means, get off your butt and start walking. Walking, running, jogging and climbing stairs really tone your legs.
Step 1. Tone your legs.
If you are serious about getting your legs very well toned, make that effort after work, to run for 45 minutes each day. You could run around the compound, run your way home, run on a jogging track or even in the gym. Just do it before dinner, straight out of the office.
On rainy days, climb the stairs instead. Try climbing up and down the stairs for a stretch of 30 minutes, without stopping.
Walk more. Walk instead of driving. If you take the public transport, get off a few stops before your actual destination and walk the rest of the way.
Getting toned legs takes effort. The end result is worth it. A plus that comes with these toned legs would be a slimmer body from all that exercise.
Step 2. Remove unwanted leg hair.
Next, wax your legs. Get a http://www.everythingbeauty.info/waxing.htm or try http://www.everythingbeauty.info/sugaring.htm instead. Or you could invest in an http://www.everythingbeauty.info/epilator.htm which you can use to remove your unwanted body hair for years to come. Waxing, sugaring or using the epilator remove your leg hair from the roots. The result is smoother skin. Hair regrowth is smoother as compared to the stubbly results you get from shaving or using a depilatory.
Step 3. Flaunt your smooth, well toned legs.
Smooth, well toned legs are always hot. They look even sexier in a pair of stockings. The sheen from the stockings or pantyhose highlight your legs.
http://www.buy-stockings.net/pantyhose.htm makes your legs look smoother. More refined. More sophisticated. A must for when you want to look put together. Sophisticated. A must for the office, boardroom and the dinner date. If you have a problem with your tummy, go for the http://www.buy-stockings.net/control-top-pantyhose.htm . That would hold your tummy in. In fact, a good pantyhose holds in your legs, making them look more slender.
Then there are the http://www.buy-stockings.net/Fishnet-Stockings.htm . These are about pure, raw sex appeal. For that glamorous night. For those moments when you want to turn heads. For movie star on the red carpet treatment. These add the finishing touch.
Wear a dress, a skirt or shorts that show off as much leg as you want.
- About The Author
Janice Wee is the webmaster of http://www.buy-stockings.net where you can find the stockings, tights, panty hose and thermal underwear.
Any woman can have sexy legs. All you need to do is to keep your legs toned and wax them regularly.
Even cross dressers are able to make their legs look sexy.
To start with, first, you need to get your legs in shape. That means, get off your butt and start walking. Walking, running, jogging and climbing stairs really tone your legs.
Step 1. Tone your legs.
If you are serious about getting your legs very well toned, make that effort after work, to run for 45 minutes each day. You could run around the compound, run your way home, run on a jogging track or even in the gym. Just do it before dinner, straight out of the office.
On rainy days, climb the stairs instead. Try climbing up and down the stairs for a stretch of 30 minutes, without stopping.
Walk more. Walk instead of driving. If you take the public transport, get off a few stops before your actual destination and walk the rest of the way.
Getting toned legs takes effort. The end result is worth it. A plus that comes with these toned legs would be a slimmer body from all that exercise.
Step 2. Remove unwanted leg hair.
Next, wax your legs. Get a http://www.everythingbeauty.info/waxing.htm or try http://www.everythingbeauty.info/sugaring.htm instead. Or you could invest in an http://www.everythingbeauty.info/epilator.htm which you can use to remove your unwanted body hair for years to come. Waxing, sugaring or using the epilator remove your leg hair from the roots. The result is smoother skin. Hair regrowth is smoother as compared to the stubbly results you get from shaving or using a depilatory.
Step 3. Flaunt your smooth, well toned legs.
Smooth, well toned legs are always hot. They look even sexier in a pair of stockings. The sheen from the stockings or pantyhose highlight your legs.
http://www.buy-stockings.net/pantyhose.htm makes your legs look smoother. More refined. More sophisticated. A must for when you want to look put together. Sophisticated. A must for the office, boardroom and the dinner date. If you have a problem with your tummy, go for the http://www.buy-stockings.net/control-top-pantyhose.htm . That would hold your tummy in. In fact, a good pantyhose holds in your legs, making them look more slender.
Then there are the http://www.buy-stockings.net/Fishnet-Stockings.htm . These are about pure, raw sex appeal. For that glamorous night. For those moments when you want to turn heads. For movie star on the red carpet treatment. These add the finishing touch.
Wear a dress, a skirt or shorts that show off as much leg as you want.
- About The Author
Janice Wee is the webmaster of http://www.buy-stockings.net where you can find the stockings, tights, panty hose and thermal underwear.
Thursday, November 23, 2006
SEX, Self esteem, and ME ! by: Dorothy Lafrinere
I have touched on so many emotions in the past and I am still feeling the need to share yet another. I have spoken on women's issues mainly, yet trying to keep men on a fair plain, mainly due to the facts and studies that more women experience self-esteem issues and jealousy monsters than men. Most of our emotions are gender friendly, except of course the ever so dreaded PMS and Menopause thingy. Although I have heard in passing that men do go through Menopause in a similar way. I will leave that for another article! (wink) If you have noticed throughout my blogs, that I have tried to remind everyone that I am speaking of both genders, even if I keep saying women. This is after all, a take off from my women's self-esteem website.
I know you are all wondering, hmmm, "What is this article going to be about?"
Well.. it is going to be about "SEX"! Now I know I have your attention!
Is it not strange how anything that has the word, "SEX" in it, catches every ones eyes. Oh, do not even say, "Not me". It is a three letter word that has more punch than Mohhamad Ally`s fist. No offence meant there. On a more serious note, SEX is definitely a key in ones well being, or higher self esteem. When we feel sexy, we can jump the highest wall and climb the tallest mountain. Yes, I am speaking to adults on this one. After all, it is when we reach adulthood that life becomes so complicated, and all the insecurities begin to control ones mind. We also find"SEX". It is so a part of what makes a very stable beginning to a relationship, which one hopes flows into a marriage partnership. Again, please do not say, "I never had premarital SEX". My parents had it, so I know everyone else in the world did too. Okay, I will maybe let 10 people get away with it. I am trying to incorporate self-esteem with relationships because a lot of what goes on between a man and a woman will trigger off ones deep inner emotions such as self esteem.
I have asked a few people of both genders, this question: "Why do people eventually forget what they have at home?" Is it because one or both have stopped trying to impress the other? Hmmm. Why would one stop trying to look good for their mate? Do you want your mate to fantasize of someone else in order to have SEX? (harsh, I know, but it is a truth) Do you talk to you mate in bed? Why not? After and during SEX, is the best time to talk to each other. Life is sweet after SEX and no one wants to get off the "Good feeling plateau". The answers I received were shrugged shoulders to start with, which is really sad. It was more like, "DUH". One man actually was excited to give his answer, "Damn, I agree". That was about it. Again I say, "Sad"! Men and Women need to learn how to talk. I mean talk about their true grit feelings. Example: "Baby, am I sexy enough for you, I mean is there anything I can do to make you want me more?" Or if you desires something different from yours partner in SEX, you should be able to ask it without the fear of hurting the others feelings. Or having to calm them down from an, "Oh, so you don't like me the way I am?"!!! We all fall into a first impulse scenario, especially if we have even the slightest insecurity. SEX is suppose to be fun and open and raw. Women, listen to me now, your man loves your body, he really does. SEX is non judgemental. That's what I like about it. Passion through SEX is the most natural emotion that we have been blessed with. Why? It is because it is involving true emotion, there is no room for worry or before thoughts, which I call fabricated emotions. Once we have turned the wheels of the SEX engine, we are good to go. It is pure and clearly set.
Our bodies become our maps to nothing but good feelings and becoming one with our partner. Our partner is no more thinking of a movie he saw, or the perfect person that crossed their paths, than they are about work the next day. It is just the two of you, it is purely sweet SEX. We allow ourselves through our weaknesses to put up walls that keep us from opening our self to our partner. We know we crave them to become one with us, to inhale their oh so sweet body smells, and to feel the sexual adrenaline flow through our veins. Is that not enough to break down the walls of worry and insecurities? Many partners do not even know whats going on when their partners are in this stage of detachment. They will be tempted to take it as a rejection. We all know that once we feel rejected, we tend to not ask questions, thus closing the doors. SEX is totally the last thing on your mind when you feel that, resulting in both parties now setting up walls. What I am saying here is that it is soooo important to communicate with your partner. If you do not feel sexy or you just think maybe you smell bad, (shush), you are committed to tell them. When one knows that the other is not into SEX because they are feeling low about themselves, the norm will actually try very hard to break down those damn insecurity walls. That's where TRUST and SEX are joined. With out those two friends, there is noooo orgasms. I know everyone luvz those. To get orgasms you must engage in SEX. There is no need for words, or I dids, or I did not`s. It is just REAL FEELINGS between two people. Can you actually say after SEX with your partner, that you feel low or insecure? NOPE!..well HELLO then, maybe it is time to look at SEX as not just a perk in a relationship. Time to look at SEX as an answer to bringing your lows to highs. People pay good money for therapists, and ruin their bodies taking drugs to get those feelings. WHY, when we have the cure right in front of us? And with a willing partner at your feet to do your bidding? Need I say more? It's probably the first thing one shuts down when they feel their self esteem taking the wrong turn. Well then in that case, you need to address it immediately and grab your partner and just have SEX. Don`t laugh, I am serious. Tease each other, make each other laugh. It will take one second of body play to get the veins filled with hot blood, that triggers off your sexual appetite, then it is the big "O" from there! Oh and guess what, no more low self esteem feelings. WOOT!!!
One`s self-esteem rises and falls like waves!
Once it hits bottom it is time for emotional housecleaning and much needed SEX!
- About The Author
Dorothy owner/operator http://www.womensselfesteem.com
http://www.justblogme.com/dorothy
http://womenselfesteem.proboards29.com
dorothy@womensselfesteem.com
I know you are all wondering, hmmm, "What is this article going to be about?"
Well.. it is going to be about "SEX"! Now I know I have your attention!
Is it not strange how anything that has the word, "SEX" in it, catches every ones eyes. Oh, do not even say, "Not me". It is a three letter word that has more punch than Mohhamad Ally`s fist. No offence meant there. On a more serious note, SEX is definitely a key in ones well being, or higher self esteem. When we feel sexy, we can jump the highest wall and climb the tallest mountain. Yes, I am speaking to adults on this one. After all, it is when we reach adulthood that life becomes so complicated, and all the insecurities begin to control ones mind. We also find"SEX". It is so a part of what makes a very stable beginning to a relationship, which one hopes flows into a marriage partnership. Again, please do not say, "I never had premarital SEX". My parents had it, so I know everyone else in the world did too. Okay, I will maybe let 10 people get away with it. I am trying to incorporate self-esteem with relationships because a lot of what goes on between a man and a woman will trigger off ones deep inner emotions such as self esteem.
I have asked a few people of both genders, this question: "Why do people eventually forget what they have at home?" Is it because one or both have stopped trying to impress the other? Hmmm. Why would one stop trying to look good for their mate? Do you want your mate to fantasize of someone else in order to have SEX? (harsh, I know, but it is a truth) Do you talk to you mate in bed? Why not? After and during SEX, is the best time to talk to each other. Life is sweet after SEX and no one wants to get off the "Good feeling plateau". The answers I received were shrugged shoulders to start with, which is really sad. It was more like, "DUH". One man actually was excited to give his answer, "Damn, I agree". That was about it. Again I say, "Sad"! Men and Women need to learn how to talk. I mean talk about their true grit feelings. Example: "Baby, am I sexy enough for you, I mean is there anything I can do to make you want me more?" Or if you desires something different from yours partner in SEX, you should be able to ask it without the fear of hurting the others feelings. Or having to calm them down from an, "Oh, so you don't like me the way I am?"!!! We all fall into a first impulse scenario, especially if we have even the slightest insecurity. SEX is suppose to be fun and open and raw. Women, listen to me now, your man loves your body, he really does. SEX is non judgemental. That's what I like about it. Passion through SEX is the most natural emotion that we have been blessed with. Why? It is because it is involving true emotion, there is no room for worry or before thoughts, which I call fabricated emotions. Once we have turned the wheels of the SEX engine, we are good to go. It is pure and clearly set.
Our bodies become our maps to nothing but good feelings and becoming one with our partner. Our partner is no more thinking of a movie he saw, or the perfect person that crossed their paths, than they are about work the next day. It is just the two of you, it is purely sweet SEX. We allow ourselves through our weaknesses to put up walls that keep us from opening our self to our partner. We know we crave them to become one with us, to inhale their oh so sweet body smells, and to feel the sexual adrenaline flow through our veins. Is that not enough to break down the walls of worry and insecurities? Many partners do not even know whats going on when their partners are in this stage of detachment. They will be tempted to take it as a rejection. We all know that once we feel rejected, we tend to not ask questions, thus closing the doors. SEX is totally the last thing on your mind when you feel that, resulting in both parties now setting up walls. What I am saying here is that it is soooo important to communicate with your partner. If you do not feel sexy or you just think maybe you smell bad, (shush), you are committed to tell them. When one knows that the other is not into SEX because they are feeling low about themselves, the norm will actually try very hard to break down those damn insecurity walls. That's where TRUST and SEX are joined. With out those two friends, there is noooo orgasms. I know everyone luvz those. To get orgasms you must engage in SEX. There is no need for words, or I dids, or I did not`s. It is just REAL FEELINGS between two people. Can you actually say after SEX with your partner, that you feel low or insecure? NOPE!..well HELLO then, maybe it is time to look at SEX as not just a perk in a relationship. Time to look at SEX as an answer to bringing your lows to highs. People pay good money for therapists, and ruin their bodies taking drugs to get those feelings. WHY, when we have the cure right in front of us? And with a willing partner at your feet to do your bidding? Need I say more? It's probably the first thing one shuts down when they feel their self esteem taking the wrong turn. Well then in that case, you need to address it immediately and grab your partner and just have SEX. Don`t laugh, I am serious. Tease each other, make each other laugh. It will take one second of body play to get the veins filled with hot blood, that triggers off your sexual appetite, then it is the big "O" from there! Oh and guess what, no more low self esteem feelings. WOOT!!!
One`s self-esteem rises and falls like waves!
Once it hits bottom it is time for emotional housecleaning and much needed SEX!
- About The Author
Dorothy owner/operator http://www.womensselfesteem.com
http://www.justblogme.com/dorothy
http://womenselfesteem.proboards29.com
dorothy@womensselfesteem.com
How Perfumes Make You Sexy by: Janice Wee
What attracts you to the opposite sex?
What makes a guy and a girl fall in love?
Is it the way they look?
Things they have in common?
A special connection?
Or is it the way they smell to each other?
Actually, the way you smell plays an important part in the mating game. It is true in the animal world. Like it or not, it is also true among people.
Ever heard about pheromones? Read http://www.womanht.com/perfume/best_pheromone_product.htm for the details.
That is the secret of sexual attraction.
In the animal world, pheromones attract member the opposite sex irresistably when the animal is in heat. Think about the female cat who attracts male cats in droves, who fight over her when she is in heat.
Among insects, a starving cockroach on the verge of dying from hunger would rather follow the source of pheromones with the hope of mating, rather than go for the food that would save his life.
Humans are not spared from the effects of pheromones either. That fuzzy feeling a woman gets near the presence of her special guy could well be due to pheromones. Likewise, men are attracted to a woman, by her looks, her personality, and the pheromones she produces.
Everyone has a million apocrine glands whose sole function is to produce a smell. These only become active upon puberty. Upon sexual maturity. A sex scent, if you will.
Did you know that in certain parts of the world, during village dances, girls would hold slices of apple in their armpits while they dance. Then, they would offer the sweat soaked apples to the guys they fancy.
Perfumes as we know them were first used by Egyptians to embalm the dead bodies of mummies. Later, perfumes were used before sex. To get both parties in a more romantic mood.
Jasmine, patchouli, sandalwood, rose, ylang ylang and a number of other aromatherapy oils used in perfumery are known for their aphrodisiac properties.
I remember reading an amusing incident about a guy who used sandalwood as a sore throat remedy. It has an interesting side effect. It increased his libido significantly. That means sandalwood perfumes featured in http://www.perfume-online.org/sandalwood.htm do make you sexier.
Patchouli has a sweet, very strong, musky scent that is considered very sexy. On its own, it is the kind of scent you either love or hate, as it can be overpowering, but when blended into a perfume with other notes, it gives the perfume a sexier feel.
Ylang ylang has a strong, womanly scent. Ylang ylang can be overpowering but when used lightly or in blends, it is said to put one in a romantic mood. Ylang ylang perfumes like the ones from http://www.perfume-online.org/ylang.htm are ideal for that romantic night out.
Jasmine perfume you can get from http://www.perfume-online.org/jasmine.htm has a very sensual fragrance. Jasmine essential oil itself exerts an effect on a female hormones. It is used in aromatherapy to balance hormones and to boost confidence. Jasmine is popular in perfumes as it has a strong erogenous effect on people.
Then there is musk which on its own, is a potent masculine scent. With other scents, it might be barely detectable yet it gives the perfume bouquet an air of mystery. Even the lightest, most flowery perfumes contain a trace of musk.
Perfumes are often used like pheromones, for that aphrodisiac effect. Look at all the perfume ads. They usually center around romance, or seduction.
Going a step further, perfumes, which you can get at http://www.perfume-online.org also make you feel good about yourself. Many women buy perfumes for the sheer beauty of the fragrances. Perfumes can make you smell wonderful. They can make your shower a luxurious experience.
You set out to face the world, knowing you smell simply fabulous and that gives you that confidence which is really sexy.
About The Author
Janice Wee
The writer created http://www.perfume-online.org/ to help you find your ideal brand name perfume at bargain prices, easily.
What makes a guy and a girl fall in love?
Is it the way they look?
Things they have in common?
A special connection?
Or is it the way they smell to each other?
Actually, the way you smell plays an important part in the mating game. It is true in the animal world. Like it or not, it is also true among people.
Ever heard about pheromones? Read http://www.womanht.com/perfume/best_pheromone_product.htm for the details.
That is the secret of sexual attraction.
In the animal world, pheromones attract member the opposite sex irresistably when the animal is in heat. Think about the female cat who attracts male cats in droves, who fight over her when she is in heat.
Among insects, a starving cockroach on the verge of dying from hunger would rather follow the source of pheromones with the hope of mating, rather than go for the food that would save his life.
Humans are not spared from the effects of pheromones either. That fuzzy feeling a woman gets near the presence of her special guy could well be due to pheromones. Likewise, men are attracted to a woman, by her looks, her personality, and the pheromones she produces.
Everyone has a million apocrine glands whose sole function is to produce a smell. These only become active upon puberty. Upon sexual maturity. A sex scent, if you will.
Did you know that in certain parts of the world, during village dances, girls would hold slices of apple in their armpits while they dance. Then, they would offer the sweat soaked apples to the guys they fancy.
Perfumes as we know them were first used by Egyptians to embalm the dead bodies of mummies. Later, perfumes were used before sex. To get both parties in a more romantic mood.
Jasmine, patchouli, sandalwood, rose, ylang ylang and a number of other aromatherapy oils used in perfumery are known for their aphrodisiac properties.
I remember reading an amusing incident about a guy who used sandalwood as a sore throat remedy. It has an interesting side effect. It increased his libido significantly. That means sandalwood perfumes featured in http://www.perfume-online.org/sandalwood.htm do make you sexier.
Patchouli has a sweet, very strong, musky scent that is considered very sexy. On its own, it is the kind of scent you either love or hate, as it can be overpowering, but when blended into a perfume with other notes, it gives the perfume a sexier feel.
Ylang ylang has a strong, womanly scent. Ylang ylang can be overpowering but when used lightly or in blends, it is said to put one in a romantic mood. Ylang ylang perfumes like the ones from http://www.perfume-online.org/ylang.htm are ideal for that romantic night out.
Jasmine perfume you can get from http://www.perfume-online.org/jasmine.htm has a very sensual fragrance. Jasmine essential oil itself exerts an effect on a female hormones. It is used in aromatherapy to balance hormones and to boost confidence. Jasmine is popular in perfumes as it has a strong erogenous effect on people.
Then there is musk which on its own, is a potent masculine scent. With other scents, it might be barely detectable yet it gives the perfume bouquet an air of mystery. Even the lightest, most flowery perfumes contain a trace of musk.
Perfumes are often used like pheromones, for that aphrodisiac effect. Look at all the perfume ads. They usually center around romance, or seduction.
Going a step further, perfumes, which you can get at http://www.perfume-online.org also make you feel good about yourself. Many women buy perfumes for the sheer beauty of the fragrances. Perfumes can make you smell wonderful. They can make your shower a luxurious experience.
You set out to face the world, knowing you smell simply fabulous and that gives you that confidence which is really sexy.
About The Author
Janice Wee
The writer created http://www.perfume-online.org/ to help you find your ideal brand name perfume at bargain prices, easily.
Thursday, November 16, 2006
12 Simple Steps To Overcoming Shyness With The Opposite Sex by: Roger Mayne
Getting over your shyness may seem impossible right now, but with a little effort and the desire to be more outgoing with the opposite sex then, you can definitely overcome shyness. It is important to know that the fears you feel when shyness hits you are typically always much worse than the reality of the situation.
Below, I've listed 12 simple steps to overcoming your shyness. These aren't magic solutions, but practice these steps and over time, your shyness will fade away and you will be left wondering what all the fuss was about in the first place.
Step 1. Fake it until you make it!
This is an infamous saying in the sales world. In other words; mimic or act like someone whom you admire and has all the personality traits you wish to have. This is a great way to start teaching yourself new behavioral habits. Put yourself in their shoes and play out real life situations as though you were them. This may sound crazy, but it does work!
Step 2. Ask yourself why you are shy.
Be honest with yourself. What are your real fears? What do you think people see when they talk with you? Answering these questions will help guide you into separating reality with what you are mistakenly perceiving it to be.
Step 3. Work on building your self confidence.
Yes, this will take effort on your part by reading books on the subject or listening to motivational tapes, but it works!
Step 4. Learn how to use daily affirmations.
Daily affirmations and positive mind influence can be very powerful tools to improve yourself. Again, this takes work but the power to change your shyness to confidence can come simply from saying things to yourself every day like "I like myself!" or "I am a winner!"
Step 5. Role play situations that make you anxious.
This may sound silly but take time out alone to Play-act situations that you get really nervous about. Pretend that you are talking to that guy or girl that makes you shy. Be that outgoing person that you wish to be. This play-acting will send messages to your sub-consciousness and help your inner-self change.
Step 6. Dress to impress.
Dress to impress, even if nobody is looking. Iron those clothes! Keep that hair neat! In other words, always look your best. This does amazing things to help you feel better about yourself and overcome shyness.
Step 7. Positive goals.
Start projects in life that make you feel good. Start a personal project, totally clean up your house clutter and your car. Work on a new hobby. How can these things help you with overcoming shyness? Simple - by working on things that make you feel good produces a natural aphrodisiac that turns you on and which indirectly turns on people around you.
Step 8. Reprogram your mental definition of shyness.
This goes along the same lines as using daily affirmations or by reading self help books. By changing your perception of shyness instead of having a negative attachment to the word, you will then help re-create your outlook on it.
Step 9. Learn to take risks.
How many times did you just want to go up to someone and tell them how beautiful they were, or how they impressed you with their clothes. As a daily exercise do this: Each day of the week go up to a total stranger and say something nice. It could be something as innocent as complimenting a pretty girl on her hair or a guy with his shirt. Do not worry about the outcome, do not worry about what they say, just do it!
Step 10. Face your fears!
Combat your fears of rejections by realizing that everyone gets rejected at one point or another, everyone! Learn not to take rejection personally. Use it as a tool.
Step 11. Get those dates.
A rather direct tactic, you can learn to overcome shyness by dating frequently. Practicing dating is the most successful way to rid your shyness but this takes a lot of nerve so date 'at your own risk'.
Step 12. Last but not least, be honest!
Tell people that you are shy up front, be honest with them. You will not believe just how nervous and shy the other person is as well. By just telling them you feel the same will help to put them at ease too. With both of you more relaxed, the date is sure to go much better.
- About The Author
Roger Mayne is author of 100 First Date Ideas. Impress your date by being different to all the others. Take her somewhere she's not been before. 100 First Dates reveals great ideas that will sweep her off her feet, and have you looking like a complete hero. firstdateidea.com
Below, I've listed 12 simple steps to overcoming your shyness. These aren't magic solutions, but practice these steps and over time, your shyness will fade away and you will be left wondering what all the fuss was about in the first place.
Step 1. Fake it until you make it!
This is an infamous saying in the sales world. In other words; mimic or act like someone whom you admire and has all the personality traits you wish to have. This is a great way to start teaching yourself new behavioral habits. Put yourself in their shoes and play out real life situations as though you were them. This may sound crazy, but it does work!
Step 2. Ask yourself why you are shy.
Be honest with yourself. What are your real fears? What do you think people see when they talk with you? Answering these questions will help guide you into separating reality with what you are mistakenly perceiving it to be.
Step 3. Work on building your self confidence.
Yes, this will take effort on your part by reading books on the subject or listening to motivational tapes, but it works!
Step 4. Learn how to use daily affirmations.
Daily affirmations and positive mind influence can be very powerful tools to improve yourself. Again, this takes work but the power to change your shyness to confidence can come simply from saying things to yourself every day like "I like myself!" or "I am a winner!"
Step 5. Role play situations that make you anxious.
This may sound silly but take time out alone to Play-act situations that you get really nervous about. Pretend that you are talking to that guy or girl that makes you shy. Be that outgoing person that you wish to be. This play-acting will send messages to your sub-consciousness and help your inner-self change.
Step 6. Dress to impress.
Dress to impress, even if nobody is looking. Iron those clothes! Keep that hair neat! In other words, always look your best. This does amazing things to help you feel better about yourself and overcome shyness.
Step 7. Positive goals.
Start projects in life that make you feel good. Start a personal project, totally clean up your house clutter and your car. Work on a new hobby. How can these things help you with overcoming shyness? Simple - by working on things that make you feel good produces a natural aphrodisiac that turns you on and which indirectly turns on people around you.
Step 8. Reprogram your mental definition of shyness.
This goes along the same lines as using daily affirmations or by reading self help books. By changing your perception of shyness instead of having a negative attachment to the word, you will then help re-create your outlook on it.
Step 9. Learn to take risks.
How many times did you just want to go up to someone and tell them how beautiful they were, or how they impressed you with their clothes. As a daily exercise do this: Each day of the week go up to a total stranger and say something nice. It could be something as innocent as complimenting a pretty girl on her hair or a guy with his shirt. Do not worry about the outcome, do not worry about what they say, just do it!
Step 10. Face your fears!
Combat your fears of rejections by realizing that everyone gets rejected at one point or another, everyone! Learn not to take rejection personally. Use it as a tool.
Step 11. Get those dates.
A rather direct tactic, you can learn to overcome shyness by dating frequently. Practicing dating is the most successful way to rid your shyness but this takes a lot of nerve so date 'at your own risk'.
Step 12. Last but not least, be honest!
Tell people that you are shy up front, be honest with them. You will not believe just how nervous and shy the other person is as well. By just telling them you feel the same will help to put them at ease too. With both of you more relaxed, the date is sure to go much better.
- About The Author
Roger Mayne is author of 100 First Date Ideas. Impress your date by being different to all the others. Take her somewhere she's not been before. 100 First Dates reveals great ideas that will sweep her off her feet, and have you looking like a complete hero. firstdateidea.com
Lovemaking Secrets: How to Find You Inner Sex Goddess by: Andrea Waggener
Lovemaking is one of the biggest joys in life. Yet many big beautiful women don’t enjoy this essential part of their relationships to its fullest. Many big beautiful women have major self-confidence issues when it comes to great lovemaking. Their negative body image puts up a big mental roadblock in their path to great sex.
Voluptuous women can enjoy making love to a man without the inhibitions forced on them through negative media and body image. Passionate lovemaking is not the sole province of the skinny.
Great sex is possible regardless of size if you know the lovemaking positions and techniques that will work best for you. Making love as a big beautiful woman isn’t rocket science; it just takes some practice and experimentation – both of which can be lots of fun!
At some time or other we’ve all seen products claiming to be some great sex secret, or heard of someone asserting that they know THE great sex tip. The fact is that having great sex isn’t a mystery. Self-confidence is sexy; and almost no man alive can resist a woman who is ready, willing, and able.
Most sexual relationships ebb and flow in intensity over time, but too often as other concerns intrude, couples find themselves in a sex-starved marriage. This can be the result of many factors, but often body images play a big part. The ideal female body image has changed over the centuries, proving one important fact. There is no one ideal body image. There is only what is popular at the moment.
Building self-esteem is a great cure for negative body image, buy how is that accomplished? First of all, remember that your partner is there with you. It’s a free country, so this must be where he wants to be! That gives you a huge advantage right away.
Now that you have your man at your side, how can you change the usual “sex after marriage” in to high-octane passionate lovemaking?
First of all, you must leave your negative baggage at the boudoir door – or put it out with the trash! Your man is there with you; take advantage of him – literally. What woman doesn’t enjoy being seduced? NONE! Guess what, men enjoy it too. Everyone wants to feel desirable, and that includes your man. Let him know how much you desire him by seducing him for a change. Get yourself and the boudoir ready for an evening of great lovemaking. Making love to a man can help you recognize your seductive powers, and it will make him feel great too. That’s really the greatest lovemaking tip ever!
Next, try out some great sex positions until you find your favorites. You could make a point of trying out one new position every week. Big women have a real advantage when it comes to making love – they’re built for comfort, not speed. And as we all know, speed isn’t the goal in great sex!
Big beautiful women are blessed with soft, cuddly curves. Use those curves when you’re making love. Build self esteem by learning to recognize how much your lover enjoys your curves.
Sex in marriage should be great sex. By paying some extra attention to your man, and making him feel good about himself, you’ll increase his attention toward you. The more great sex you have, the more great sex you’ll have.
The key to making good love is to keep your sense of humor and your sense of adventure. These are the best lovemaking tips and lovemaking techniques you can try. Release your inner BBW sex goddess, and start enjoying some truly passionate lovemaking!
- About The Author
Andrea Rains Waggener & Nancy Anne Eltrich are co-authors of A Big Beautiful Woman’s Guide To Great Sex. They offer more BBW lovemaking tips at http://www.bbwguidetolovemaking.com
Voluptuous women can enjoy making love to a man without the inhibitions forced on them through negative media and body image. Passionate lovemaking is not the sole province of the skinny.
Great sex is possible regardless of size if you know the lovemaking positions and techniques that will work best for you. Making love as a big beautiful woman isn’t rocket science; it just takes some practice and experimentation – both of which can be lots of fun!
At some time or other we’ve all seen products claiming to be some great sex secret, or heard of someone asserting that they know THE great sex tip. The fact is that having great sex isn’t a mystery. Self-confidence is sexy; and almost no man alive can resist a woman who is ready, willing, and able.
Most sexual relationships ebb and flow in intensity over time, but too often as other concerns intrude, couples find themselves in a sex-starved marriage. This can be the result of many factors, but often body images play a big part. The ideal female body image has changed over the centuries, proving one important fact. There is no one ideal body image. There is only what is popular at the moment.
Building self-esteem is a great cure for negative body image, buy how is that accomplished? First of all, remember that your partner is there with you. It’s a free country, so this must be where he wants to be! That gives you a huge advantage right away.
Now that you have your man at your side, how can you change the usual “sex after marriage” in to high-octane passionate lovemaking?
First of all, you must leave your negative baggage at the boudoir door – or put it out with the trash! Your man is there with you; take advantage of him – literally. What woman doesn’t enjoy being seduced? NONE! Guess what, men enjoy it too. Everyone wants to feel desirable, and that includes your man. Let him know how much you desire him by seducing him for a change. Get yourself and the boudoir ready for an evening of great lovemaking. Making love to a man can help you recognize your seductive powers, and it will make him feel great too. That’s really the greatest lovemaking tip ever!
Next, try out some great sex positions until you find your favorites. You could make a point of trying out one new position every week. Big women have a real advantage when it comes to making love – they’re built for comfort, not speed. And as we all know, speed isn’t the goal in great sex!
Big beautiful women are blessed with soft, cuddly curves. Use those curves when you’re making love. Build self esteem by learning to recognize how much your lover enjoys your curves.
Sex in marriage should be great sex. By paying some extra attention to your man, and making him feel good about himself, you’ll increase his attention toward you. The more great sex you have, the more great sex you’ll have.
The key to making good love is to keep your sense of humor and your sense of adventure. These are the best lovemaking tips and lovemaking techniques you can try. Release your inner BBW sex goddess, and start enjoying some truly passionate lovemaking!
- About The Author
Andrea Rains Waggener & Nancy Anne Eltrich are co-authors of A Big Beautiful Woman’s Guide To Great Sex. They offer more BBW lovemaking tips at http://www.bbwguidetolovemaking.com
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