You see a lot of articles about what men can do during sex to make it better for the woman, but there's a lot less information - and opinion - on the mistakes women make. So, to set the record straight, here's our list of ten things for women to avoid.
1 Expecting him to think like a woman
We've all seen loads of books with titles like "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus" which highlight an unfortunate difference between the sexes. Men and women don't think the same way - and while we're not going to get into why this happens, it's important to remember that fact when you're in a relationship. In general, men are not as romantic as women, they don't see romance as a necessary prelude to sex, and they can divorce sex from their feelings in a way that perhaps most women can't. So there will be plenty of times when a man wants sex even if he isn't feeling romantic and connected to his partner.
For him, the physical pleasure of sex is a reward in itself. He doesn't need to be seduced into feeling desire (though he may appreciate it if you do seduce him!), at least most of the time, for his sex drive is a pretty constant part of his maleness. I think that's what women don't understand.
They know how elusive and emotional their own sex drive is, but they don't appreciate how different it is for a man. Think of it this way: men can enjoy sex with their partner whether they are feeling loving or not; in fact they often find their feelings of love for their partner when they have sex with her. By contrast, women often say they need to feel loving before they want sex - or at least before they are prepared to give themselves heart and soul to a man.
2 Not showing your sexual energy
Women who were brought up to be demure "good girls" (i.e. non-sexual) may find it difficult to express the essence of their feminine energy during sex. And a lot of women also have problems expressing their anger, an emotion which can add real spice to the sexual union between men and women. This lack of sexual energy might appear as a reluctance to initiate sex, a reluctance to be the active partner, a reluctance to make noises or thrust, or simply an overall tendency to wait for the man to lead and direct what happens during sex.
But believe me, ladies, your man will really like it when you express your passion - whether that means you getting on top for woman on top sex, moving in a way that will give you the greatest pleasure, kissing him passionately, or being assertive about what you want in bed.
3 Being too gentle when you touch his penis
Men like a firmer touch than women, especially when it comes to their penises. If you ever have the pleasure of watching him masturbate, you'll see how much pressure he uses on his penis - especially as he nears orgasm. If you're doing it for him, ask him to tell you what you're doing right and what he'd like done differently. He'll really appreciate your efforts to give him more pleasure.
4 Not experimenting with sex
The saying has it that men think about sex ten times an hour - or is it a hundred? Yes, of course that's an exaggeration, but it isn't much of one. While some women have a high sexual desire, it's true to say that women in general are much less sexy than men when they're not in the bedroom. Men fantasize all the time - about the things they see, what they'd like to do, how they'd like to do it, and so on. With such an active sexual imagination, it's not hard to understand why a bit of variation in the bedroom routine can keep a man sexually happy.
It doesn't have to be way out stuff like bondage, either. For example, try changing sex positions once in a while: take the initiative and get on top of him or let him enjoy rear entry for a change. Talk dirty to him if you've never tried that before; explore and play with new parts of his body, such as his anus and perineum, during foreplay - or even during the main event. Seduce him into a "quickie" by leaving a trail of clothes across the floor into the bedroom. Greet him at the door in sexy clothing. Phone him at work and tell him what you'd like to do to him later that day.....well, you get the idea - use your imagination!
5 Expecting him to read your mind
Yes, we know it's difficult to express your sexual desires directly. But men don't think like women. They don't read clues, they don't get hints. So stop communicating indirectly, and tell him what you want. And give him feedback when you get it! That way, he'll know exactly what he's supposed to be doing, how you feel about it, and whether to do it again. For example, if you like what he's doing during sex, let him know with your moans of pleasure.
6 Criticizing him
I think one of the reasons women can be so critical of their man is that they've never learned the art of direct communication. Than means stating clearly and directly what you want, how you want it, and whether you got it - and how you feel about it afterwards. Men appreciate that style of talk - they know where they stand and it removes the uncertainty for them.
Criticism is an indirect way of saying that your needs are not being met - but if you read number 5 above, then maybe you've begun to understand that your man won't know what you want unless you tell him. If you're judging his love for you on the basis of his ability to anticipate and meet your needs without you saying what they are, well, I'm afraid you aren't likely to be very satisfied. And it won't be his fault.
7 Letting him take responsibility for your orgasm A lot of us think that a man somehow has a responsibility to "give" a woman an orgasm during sex. After all, that's how a lot of us were brought up - that a man somehow has to look after "his" woman. And that idea extends to making sure she has an orgasm during sex.....but the truth is that women are responsible for their own orgasms. So while it might be nice for your man to help you get there, if you don't make it to orgasm through his efforts, you can always take matters into your own hands.
8 Controlling him by withdrawing sex
One of the most unhealthy things you can do in a relationship is to use sex as a weapon. This is basically a statement that you feel powerless, that you think withholding sex is the only way you can get what you want. Rather than trying to exert some influence over your man by denying him the pleasure of your body, try communicating directly what you want and don't want. (That might even extend to simply saying you don't feel emotionally close enough to your partner to want sex.)
9 Thinking he'll feel the same way about your body that you do
It just isn't so. Men don't attach the judgments to women's bodies that women do. So, for example, even if he thinks your butt really is a bit on the large side, it won't matter to him the way it matters to you. In fact, he probably quite likes it. And he certainly won't be put off making love, or want the lights off, because of it. While you waste time and emotional energy wondering if you're completely undesirable because of some aspect of your body, he'll never give it a second thought. It's women who judge their bodies, I think for the sake of comparison with other women, not men.
10 Not making up with sex after an argument
Well, yes, I know that a lot of couples do make up with sex when they've had an argument, but in fact many more don't. As I said above, most women think that they need to be feeling loving and emotionally close before they want sex. Yet I've met a lot of couples in my work as a sexual therapist who have found that taking the risk and jumping into bed can work really well as a way of getting close again.
Even if you don't feel sexy or loving when you start making love, after a while the simple act of being physically connected in bed can really change the way you feel about each other. The other way of settling an argument (that's talking, seeking understanding, and thrashing out how you feel) is fine: but once in a while try a more direct method of getting your feelings back on track - just go to bed together!
About The Author
Rod Phillips is a writer for Sex Techniques And Positions - http://www.sex-techniques-and-positions.com/index.html Send your comments and ideas for better sex to tips@sex-techniques-and-positions.com.
Friday, December 15, 2006
Tuesday, December 12, 2006
15 Sure-Shot Christmas Gift Ideas For Men by: Samuel Hary
When you desperately want to gift them something ‘different’ this year
Anyone who has ever tried giving a ‘different’ gift to their men folk on a Christmas will know what I am talking about. It is far easier to select gift for women due to the kind of variety and range available in the market. Anyone under 30 would love to have the latest designer makeup offering. Above 40 will love some concoctions of skin creams. Bath luxuries, new shimmering evening dress, cookery classes vouchers, time saving kitchen equipment…there is no dearth of offerings for women.
However, for men, the choices are so limited. How many times can you gift someone golf clubs, socks, aftershave, watch or a good old leather wallet?? Any offbeat gift like bath marbles or a cute puppy may not hit-off with everyone. You are always in doubt while experimenting, if it’s the right thing.
Here are some alternative gift ideas that might earn you that big broad smile from your dad, grandpa or husband. The kinky ones will get you some hugs and more from your man.
. Sudoku Toilet Roll – For the enthusiasts who can’t get enough of the game. It is a sure way to pass time on the bob. Sudoku is a massive puzzling craze that has swept the world. One of those addictive little games that will keep you amused for hours. Gift one to the one you love and watch their grins on receiving this unusual gift.
. Racing Grannies – These are desktop dolls in the form of ageing, wrinkled grannies, but race around faster than a car on the desk. Race these old dears at crippling speeds, wind them up and watch them go, just adjust the grannies arms to find the perfect race position. Two grannies complete with zimmer frames and shopping baskets will have you howling with laughter as you watch them scuttle along the desk. Ultimate fun guaranteed!!
. Babe Beer Bottle Holder – If you want to gift him something kinky this Christmas, we have the perfect gift. The Babe Beer bottle holder has an alluring ahem…female figurine on the outside. He will remember you each time he holds the holder or the babe… . Hand Mobile Battery Charger - For emergency times when he needs to recharge his cell but there is no electrical socket nearby. This neat little gadget has a shaft that is rotated by hand. A 3-minute charging results in a talk time of about 7-8 minutes. Can be remodelled to suit any mobile phone brand. Perfect gift for any gizmo-freak.
. A hammock – Rekindle the memories of that Caribbean holiday by gifting him a hammock. Who wouldn’t love to lounge around in a hammock in the sun (even if imagined!) with a beer bottle in hand? A suitable gift for those who love to rest their derrieres often enough..
. Hip flask cum Cigarette Case – A perfect gift to a Football fanatic. When he goes to see his favourite team in action, this cute little flask helps him carry his favourite spirit and upto 6 cigarettes in neat, very small case. Looks elegant too.
. Virtual Girlfriend Game – Gift this video game to your brother or friend if they recently got dumped or have been too shy to ask anyone out. It will help them polish their dating skills. A perfect gift for tongue-tied teenagers.
. Whistling, Flashing Keylighter – They will never loose their keys again. On being whistled to, this amazing keylighter whistles back at you and flashes light. So gift this to your absent-minded hubby or careless teenager, they are bound to appreciate this thoughtful gesture.
. Football club share – What do you gift a Man United fan?? A share in their favourite football club!!! They will swear by you if you give them this chance to own a piece of the magic. These shares are available in different denominations for various clubs.
. An acre on Mars or Moon – What do you gift to a man who has everything, in his own words?? An acre of land on moon or Mars will really make them reach for the stars J Yes!! They are up for grabs and the recipients of your gift will get a neat little certificate to prove it. Now you know what to gift that well-off uncle.
. Family History Gift-Box – Perfect gift for teenagers finding their roots or people living away from their native neighbourhood. This box contains personalised family history of people in Wales, England, and Ireland. Imagine the surprise on their face in knowing how many of their ancestors went to the New World and who knows, they might even have royalty as part of their lineage.
. Personalised Stationery – Surprise him by gifting him his insignia stationary. He is sure to be impressed by the embossed letters of his name on all his personalised letter-pads, cards and other business and personal markings.
. Table Football game – Who hasn’t loved a good game of Table Football on a bleak wet day? Gift this to your bachelor friends or cousins and watch them play it over and over with squeals of delight. Danger: you might feel ignored in their company…
. Espresso Cappuccino Machines - For the modern wonders of men who need a coffee first thing in the morning but cant brew it to save their lives! This classy and handy machine makes life a little easier for your dear ones by serving them hot piping Espresso or Cappuccino every single morning unfailingly.
. ‘Macho-man’ Apron or ‘Danger: Man Cooking’ Apron – If you have survived more than one of their cooking disasters last year, its time to give them a ‘Danger – Man Cooking’ apron. Or, stroke their ego and laugh as they put on a ‘Macho-Man’ apron and then sweetly ask them to fix the dinner.
. Men will always be boys.
- About The Author
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Defining Menopause by: Rob Buenaventura
There is a reason that menopause is often referred to as ‘the change.’ It is after all a huge change for a woman’s bodies that carries with it a powerful physical and psychological toll. Not only does it herald the end of menstrual cycles (a cause for some amount of cheering) it is also the harbinger of the end of youth or the onset of age, which results in some rather mixed emotions.
When the ovaries quite producing estrogen, the reproductive system begins to essentially close up shop. This process is what is considered menopause. As your body adjusts to the changes taking places, it creates certain ‘coping mechanisms’ in order to process these changes in hormone levels. The coping mechanisms that your body creates are known as the symptoms of menopause.
These symptoms include:
1) Hot flashes, sometimes accompanied by palpitations.
2) Extreme irritability, mood swings, depression, and inability to concentrate
3) Vaginal dryness and increasing urinary frequency accompanied by decreasing and erratic menstrual cycles.
So what is Menopause?
Technically, menopause is the term used to describe the ending of the monthly menstrual cycle. The process can last anywhere from six months to five years while one year is the common length of time. It is important to remember that the duration will vary between women. Another important thing to note is that menopause is not an illness or a disease but a natural progression in the cycle of life. Menopause can be surgically produced when the ovaries are removed during a hysterectomy.
When Does Menopause Occur?
The average age at which menopause occurs is 50.5 years, however some women enter into the process much earlier. Cancer sufferers and those who have received chemotherapy often experience an early onset of menopausal symptoms. Other things that can bring on early menopause include autoimmune disorders, thyroid disease, and diabetes mellitus. Early menopause is typically defined as menopause that occurs before the age of 40. The actual onset of premature menopause can be formally diagnosed through the measurements of certain hormones within the body.
One of the most common risks or problems associated with menopause is the increased loss of bone known as osteoporosis. Special care and attention should be paid, especially to women who are particularly vulnerable or at risk for developing this condition.
During the early stages of menopause, the hormones estrogen and progesterone lessen and menstrual cycles become increasingly irregular. Fertility and the ability to have children also tend to decrease during this process as well.
Some Common Treatments for Menopause are:
1) Hormone replacement therapy also known as HRT
2) Alternative therapies
3) Natural remedies
4) Lifestyle changes (fitness and dietary changes)
5) Nutritional supplements It is important to note that according to a Women’s Health Initiative study, women who participate in HRT are at a much higher risk for certain diseases. It is vitally important that you discuss the risks and advantages involved in this type of therapy with your physician in order to make an informed decision.
- About The Author
Rob Buenaventura invites you to check out http://www.menopausetime.com. Here we provide a website on menopause symptoms and related common questions on menopause health. Think you might be entering menopause?
Check out http://www.menopausetime.com/symptoms/first-symptom-of-menopause.html for early symptoms on menopause.
Friday, November 24, 2006
How to Achive and Maintain a Healthy, Sexy Body by: Jane Morris
In a world where slim, slender, and sexy are the standards of the society, obesity has no place. From television programs, commercials, and product advertisements to magazine features, billboards, and internet pop-ups, you won’t be able to find men unpacked with biceps, triceps, and abdominal muscles nor women with vital statistics other than 36-24-36.
How strange society can be! It dictates what is wrong and what is right, what is proper and what is not that if you feel you don’t belong to the “in” crowd, how sad and low can you be? People judge other people with no reasonable bases making the discriminated ones feel left out and unwanted.
As sensitive people who belong to such unfriendly societies, we get affected by cold treatments and pathetic stares. But we can’t let anybody make us feel inferior to them anytime. We were all created equal. Thus, we deserve to be feeling what they are feeling, to be doing what they are doing, and to be living how they are living in this strange world.
But reality check: how can we feel, do, and live the way other people do if there really is something that hinders us?
I used to be fat myself when I was young. Somehow, I felt inferior and caused me to envy a lot of people. I started wondering, why can’t my crush notice me? Or why can’t I join popularity contests? Is it really because of my physical attributes, particularly my body weight and figure? It’s sad to see that my slim friends and classmates got to have whatever they like while I couldn’t. Indeed, it was because I was fat, and they are not. Even though the effects of my disorder was purely psychological and didn’t bring any other biological problems, still it was unhappy and unhealthy.
As time passed by, I realized that I don’t want to be left out. Instead, I want to be noticed and recognized. I want to feel happy, healthy, and satisfied. Thus, I made an effort to lose weight and get rid of excess fats in my body. Thankfully, with an ounce of willingness, a cup of patience, and a spoon of determination, I was able to achieve what once was only a dream. Such comments like “You look slimmer,” or “Have you lost weight? Tell me your secret,” was really music to my ears.
I have traveled the path of overweight and unhappiness in a single journey; it wasn’t really a smooth ride – a trip not worth remembering. But, on the other hand, without that experience, I wouldn’t have been in my position now – happy and contented, the real richness in the world.
I have used self-hypnosis to make sure my mind reinforced what my body needed to do. It was really amazing setting up my mind to 'control' what I wanted to achieve. I understood the importance of setting realisable and achieveable goals, and then by a simple process of repetition, programmed muy mind to anticipate success - and it worked.
Thus, if I can do it, so can you. I don’t want any other people to feel what I felt before – unwanted, alone, and taken for granted. Or worse, might even suffer from complications and other illnesses. Being fat, overweight, or obese is unhealthy, both in the mind and in the body. We know it. We’ve been there, right? Now, come with me to a journey where we can change not only our body size, weight, and figure, but our lives as well. There’s nothing more wonderful than being able to do what you want to do or to go where you’d like you go. That is real happiness and contentment. And like me, you too can achieve it.
In a world where slim, slender, and sexy are the standards of the society, obesity has to go. So, let’s go terminate it!
- About The Author
Jane Morris is a member of Horizon Direct Services, and has written a number of articles on self improvement. The book can be downloaded at http://tinyurl.com/7jopr www.horizondirectservices.com Jane’s main site, with links to a number of other self-improvement products and services www.mindpowersite.com self-hypnosis CD’s for a number of complimentary self-improvement topics www.weightlosspatch.com Weight loss patch by Visifirm
How strange society can be! It dictates what is wrong and what is right, what is proper and what is not that if you feel you don’t belong to the “in” crowd, how sad and low can you be? People judge other people with no reasonable bases making the discriminated ones feel left out and unwanted.
As sensitive people who belong to such unfriendly societies, we get affected by cold treatments and pathetic stares. But we can’t let anybody make us feel inferior to them anytime. We were all created equal. Thus, we deserve to be feeling what they are feeling, to be doing what they are doing, and to be living how they are living in this strange world.
But reality check: how can we feel, do, and live the way other people do if there really is something that hinders us?
I used to be fat myself when I was young. Somehow, I felt inferior and caused me to envy a lot of people. I started wondering, why can’t my crush notice me? Or why can’t I join popularity contests? Is it really because of my physical attributes, particularly my body weight and figure? It’s sad to see that my slim friends and classmates got to have whatever they like while I couldn’t. Indeed, it was because I was fat, and they are not. Even though the effects of my disorder was purely psychological and didn’t bring any other biological problems, still it was unhappy and unhealthy.
As time passed by, I realized that I don’t want to be left out. Instead, I want to be noticed and recognized. I want to feel happy, healthy, and satisfied. Thus, I made an effort to lose weight and get rid of excess fats in my body. Thankfully, with an ounce of willingness, a cup of patience, and a spoon of determination, I was able to achieve what once was only a dream. Such comments like “You look slimmer,” or “Have you lost weight? Tell me your secret,” was really music to my ears.
I have traveled the path of overweight and unhappiness in a single journey; it wasn’t really a smooth ride – a trip not worth remembering. But, on the other hand, without that experience, I wouldn’t have been in my position now – happy and contented, the real richness in the world.
I have used self-hypnosis to make sure my mind reinforced what my body needed to do. It was really amazing setting up my mind to 'control' what I wanted to achieve. I understood the importance of setting realisable and achieveable goals, and then by a simple process of repetition, programmed muy mind to anticipate success - and it worked.
Thus, if I can do it, so can you. I don’t want any other people to feel what I felt before – unwanted, alone, and taken for granted. Or worse, might even suffer from complications and other illnesses. Being fat, overweight, or obese is unhealthy, both in the mind and in the body. We know it. We’ve been there, right? Now, come with me to a journey where we can change not only our body size, weight, and figure, but our lives as well. There’s nothing more wonderful than being able to do what you want to do or to go where you’d like you go. That is real happiness and contentment. And like me, you too can achieve it.
In a world where slim, slender, and sexy are the standards of the society, obesity has to go. So, let’s go terminate it!
- About The Author
Jane Morris is a member of Horizon Direct Services, and has written a number of articles on self improvement. The book can be downloaded at http://tinyurl.com/7jopr www.horizondirectservices.com Jane’s main site, with links to a number of other self-improvement products and services www.mindpowersite.com self-hypnosis CD’s for a number of complimentary self-improvement topics www.weightlosspatch.com Weight loss patch by Visifirm
Drinking and Sex - Should You? by: Yair Czitrom
Drinking is known as the number one 'panties/boxers remover' in the whole world. We all know that we should not drink and drive, but what about drinking and running to bed? We are not so sure about that, and those who have experienced having sex after drinking will probably agree and remember how big the mistake is.
Here are 7 reasons why not to drink and run to bed:
*The mature lover
The mature ladies love to have sex and like all of us they have that need. If we are talking about the ladies that are quite old, they have defiantly that need and probably have not done it for a long time. She will wait for you while you get drunk in the bar, and when you are done with you 5 th drink she will get you. Some of you will say: 'great'. Ok, we all have are style.
* Unknown sexual background
She is blonde, she has a great figure and she is willing to get to bed with you after the second drink...but she will wait until you are done with the bottle, so it will be more difficult for you the notice the 'extra' body part she has.
* Your best friend
You always knew that he is a bit different, and every time you have looked at a great looking girl's breasts, he was looking at her boyfriend's ass. Even though he does not fancy you, he will after the 3 rd drink, and you start to have the ';I need some sex' feelings. After your 3 rd drink you start compromising...and then you wake up in the morning! Now you need to face it.
* The Weight issue
She is sexy, she is pretty, she does not say no and she is about 15 sizes more then you when it is coming to fashion. The sex might be great, but you back aches will be there for years to remind you that moment when you said YES to her...when she asked you if it is ok if she will sits on you.
* From the outside and underneath
Yea, she looks amazing with that mini skirt and when you drink, you do not really get down to the bottom of the details, but the next day, just thinking about what you have been licking could make you sick.
* Act of force.
She looks great and she wants sex...but she is also very 'active' person. If you are into it - great, otherwise, you might find out that the woman of your dreams is a sado queen that wants you here and now as here little wick salve. You might find out that her meaning of sex includes cleaning the house and some other things that you do not really feel like when you are drunk.
*The sticky punch line
All went extremely well. You guys had an amazing evening, and you might even love her for that...but now you will have to pay for it for the rest of your life...as you were so drunk that you married her.
If you are really looking for a one night stand come to http://www.onenighstanddate.com...it is free.
- About The Author
Yair Czitrom is the owner and webmaster of http://www.onenightstanddate.com - An experienced online dater that took his dating knowledge and web skills as a dater and as an IT pro to help other fun seekers in today’s cyber world. He is an expert writer on ezinearticles.com and searchwarp.com
Here are 7 reasons why not to drink and run to bed:
*The mature lover
The mature ladies love to have sex and like all of us they have that need. If we are talking about the ladies that are quite old, they have defiantly that need and probably have not done it for a long time. She will wait for you while you get drunk in the bar, and when you are done with you 5 th drink she will get you. Some of you will say: 'great'. Ok, we all have are style.
* Unknown sexual background
She is blonde, she has a great figure and she is willing to get to bed with you after the second drink...but she will wait until you are done with the bottle, so it will be more difficult for you the notice the 'extra' body part she has.
* Your best friend
You always knew that he is a bit different, and every time you have looked at a great looking girl's breasts, he was looking at her boyfriend's ass. Even though he does not fancy you, he will after the 3 rd drink, and you start to have the ';I need some sex' feelings. After your 3 rd drink you start compromising...and then you wake up in the morning! Now you need to face it.
* The Weight issue
She is sexy, she is pretty, she does not say no and she is about 15 sizes more then you when it is coming to fashion. The sex might be great, but you back aches will be there for years to remind you that moment when you said YES to her...when she asked you if it is ok if she will sits on you.
* From the outside and underneath
Yea, she looks amazing with that mini skirt and when you drink, you do not really get down to the bottom of the details, but the next day, just thinking about what you have been licking could make you sick.
* Act of force.
She looks great and she wants sex...but she is also very 'active' person. If you are into it - great, otherwise, you might find out that the woman of your dreams is a sado queen that wants you here and now as here little wick salve. You might find out that her meaning of sex includes cleaning the house and some other things that you do not really feel like when you are drunk.
*The sticky punch line
All went extremely well. You guys had an amazing evening, and you might even love her for that...but now you will have to pay for it for the rest of your life...as you were so drunk that you married her.
If you are really looking for a one night stand come to http://www.onenighstanddate.com...it is free.
- About The Author
Yair Czitrom is the owner and webmaster of http://www.onenightstanddate.com - An experienced online dater that took his dating knowledge and web skills as a dater and as an IT pro to help other fun seekers in today’s cyber world. He is an expert writer on ezinearticles.com and searchwarp.com
G Spot Positions: Our Favorite 3 Positions to Hit Your G Spot During Sex by: Nathan Patmor
I read the other day that the majority of American’s regularly have sex in just a few positions. Well, if that’s true, its time to shake things up! This article is on g spot positions. These are our favorite ways of hitting the g-spot during sex.
If you like boring, normal sex, that lasts just 5 – 10 minutes, don’t read this page. If you’re feeling more adventurous, and are ready to blow your mind then please, proceed!
So, the first step in hitting your g spot during sex is to know where it is! For a refresher course, check out this page on the g spot location. You also may want to try a finding the g spot exercise first.
From here on, we’re going to assume that you (and your partner) know where your g-spot is, and how to best stimulate it to give you pleasure.
Now that that’s all taken care of – lets focus on g spot positions. The first step is to recognize that the g spot, or g spot area, is small and not always in the same place. So, throughout your sex you’ll both need to be communicating. What works, what feels good, what doesn’t, a little to the right, a little to the left, etc.
In the beginning, as you explore different g spot positions, its likely best if you agree not to have orgasms. We’ve found this makes it easy to have a sense of exploration and play.
And, without further delay, here are our three favorite g spot positions. Enjoy!
Ride ‘Em Cowboy (Woman on Top)
I have to say there’s something so sexy about a woman being on top, in charge of finding what feels the best. Really, this position is ideal because it allows the woman to control the depth, intensity, and speed. It gives you the ability to play, and explore, and notice how much more pleasure comes from subtle differences.
As you are on top, experiment with what feel’s best to you. Move, shift, tell your partner what feel’s good, rock back and forth, take it deep, keep it shallow, etc. This will likely work best if you are already aroused and hot. (This is true with all these g spot positions)
Now, as the guy in this position, you’re not just laying back passively (thought that is fine to do – just not now!). What will help your partner most is if you tilt your pelvis as much as possible. The more you can do this, the better.
You’ll also get a great workout! : )
Unfortunately, if you are anything like me, you’ll get super tired super quick. In the beginning we used to use alot of pillows to try to angle my hips. Lately, we’ve really been enjoying something called the wedge, its a liberator shape. This small shape puts your pelvis in the perfect tilted position without you having to do any work.
I know it sounds crazy, but the small, subtle positioning this enables, makes all the difference. If you want to find out more about liberator shapes, their website is www.liberatorshapes.com.
Doggy Style (Crouching, Man Coming from Behind)
This is one of our favorite g spot positions. Not only do you have great g-spot access, but there’s just something so primal andsexy about *&#*! from behind.
Now, guys, in this position you can take it easy and let her do all the work. In this case, ladies, use your thighs to press back and find the depth, thrust style, and position that works best for you.
However, guys, if you want to be more active, you can easily adapt this position. Push your woman down, and lay more on top of her (still coming in from behind)
Now, for the best g spot stimulation, position your legs outside of hers and put more of your weight forward, so you are riding her from up higher.
This puts your penis on more of a downward angle, and helps you hit her g-spot more directly. You can also experiment with having her legs more open, or more closed to see what feels best.
We've also been using the liberator shape - the wedge - in this position too. We found if we put that underneath my girlfriend, it gives her hips a particular tilt that totally amp things up.
Your Highness (Man Kneeling or Standing, Woman's Legs on His Shoulders)
We love this sex position. With many g spot positions you can’t look each other in the eyes. With this one, we recommend it. Also, when you want to hit the g spot, having your legs high and wide is the secret ingredient. Sometimes putting your feet on your partner’s shoulders can be the most comfortable (its also just super sexy!)
Now, you can do this position in lots of ways. You can do it off your sofa, a chair, or your coffee table (we won’t tell!). Or, you can modify it to work off your bed by kneeling vs standing. The only real key to this position is that your partner is angled upward, with her legs spread wide or on your shoulders. You can achieve this combination in lots of different ways (be creative!)
Well, these are our three favorite g spot positions, and I hope you try them out and enjoy!
- About The Author
Nathan Patmor. Find and explore your g spot. Enjoy amazing sex and a better relationship. Find tips, techniques, and exercises written by a real couple. www.master-your-g-spot.com
If you like boring, normal sex, that lasts just 5 – 10 minutes, don’t read this page. If you’re feeling more adventurous, and are ready to blow your mind then please, proceed!
So, the first step in hitting your g spot during sex is to know where it is! For a refresher course, check out this page on the g spot location. You also may want to try a finding the g spot exercise first.
From here on, we’re going to assume that you (and your partner) know where your g-spot is, and how to best stimulate it to give you pleasure.
Now that that’s all taken care of – lets focus on g spot positions. The first step is to recognize that the g spot, or g spot area, is small and not always in the same place. So, throughout your sex you’ll both need to be communicating. What works, what feels good, what doesn’t, a little to the right, a little to the left, etc.
In the beginning, as you explore different g spot positions, its likely best if you agree not to have orgasms. We’ve found this makes it easy to have a sense of exploration and play.
And, without further delay, here are our three favorite g spot positions. Enjoy!
Ride ‘Em Cowboy (Woman on Top)
I have to say there’s something so sexy about a woman being on top, in charge of finding what feels the best. Really, this position is ideal because it allows the woman to control the depth, intensity, and speed. It gives you the ability to play, and explore, and notice how much more pleasure comes from subtle differences.
As you are on top, experiment with what feel’s best to you. Move, shift, tell your partner what feel’s good, rock back and forth, take it deep, keep it shallow, etc. This will likely work best if you are already aroused and hot. (This is true with all these g spot positions)
Now, as the guy in this position, you’re not just laying back passively (thought that is fine to do – just not now!). What will help your partner most is if you tilt your pelvis as much as possible. The more you can do this, the better.
You’ll also get a great workout! : )
Unfortunately, if you are anything like me, you’ll get super tired super quick. In the beginning we used to use alot of pillows to try to angle my hips. Lately, we’ve really been enjoying something called the wedge, its a liberator shape. This small shape puts your pelvis in the perfect tilted position without you having to do any work.
I know it sounds crazy, but the small, subtle positioning this enables, makes all the difference. If you want to find out more about liberator shapes, their website is www.liberatorshapes.com.
Doggy Style (Crouching, Man Coming from Behind)
This is one of our favorite g spot positions. Not only do you have great g-spot access, but there’s just something so primal andsexy about *&#*! from behind.
Now, guys, in this position you can take it easy and let her do all the work. In this case, ladies, use your thighs to press back and find the depth, thrust style, and position that works best for you.
However, guys, if you want to be more active, you can easily adapt this position. Push your woman down, and lay more on top of her (still coming in from behind)
Now, for the best g spot stimulation, position your legs outside of hers and put more of your weight forward, so you are riding her from up higher.
This puts your penis on more of a downward angle, and helps you hit her g-spot more directly. You can also experiment with having her legs more open, or more closed to see what feels best.
We've also been using the liberator shape - the wedge - in this position too. We found if we put that underneath my girlfriend, it gives her hips a particular tilt that totally amp things up.
Your Highness (Man Kneeling or Standing, Woman's Legs on His Shoulders)
We love this sex position. With many g spot positions you can’t look each other in the eyes. With this one, we recommend it. Also, when you want to hit the g spot, having your legs high and wide is the secret ingredient. Sometimes putting your feet on your partner’s shoulders can be the most comfortable (its also just super sexy!)
Now, you can do this position in lots of ways. You can do it off your sofa, a chair, or your coffee table (we won’t tell!). Or, you can modify it to work off your bed by kneeling vs standing. The only real key to this position is that your partner is angled upward, with her legs spread wide or on your shoulders. You can achieve this combination in lots of different ways (be creative!)
Well, these are our three favorite g spot positions, and I hope you try them out and enjoy!
- About The Author
Nathan Patmor. Find and explore your g spot. Enjoy amazing sex and a better relationship. Find tips, techniques, and exercises written by a real couple. www.master-your-g-spot.com
Sexy Holiday Gift Ideas by: Lance Russell
If you’re looking for a gift that’s a little sexy or a bit naughty you’ll find some fun ideas how to spice up the eggnog below. These choices are not your standard lingerie gifts. You, your partner and your love life will all benefit when you give your significant other something sexy for the Holidays. You’ll be able to share memorable intimate moments and you don’t need to spend a fortune.
A lightly scented massage oil can be appreciated by both sexes. A nice oil greatly adds to the massage experience and massage is a perfect way to gain intimacy with your partner. You can take the experience one step further by adding an instructional DVD on Erotic Massage from Sinclair. Perhaps surprisingly, there are many massage techniques to arouse your lover. This DVD covers sexual techniques for both men and women.
An even more complete overview of sexual positions and techniques is the “Better Sex Series” DVDs from Sinclair Intimacy Institute. These 3 DVDs cover more than four hours of sexual advice from doctors and other sexual professionals explicitly demonstrated by couples.
Another fun category of sexy toys for couples to enjoy is vibrators. There are thousands of vibrators to choose from, some are sexually graphic in the form of a penis and others don’t reveal their intended purpose at all. Two very popular sexually stealth vibrators are the Layaspot Vibrator by Fun Factory and the Hitachi Magic Wand.
The Layaspot Vibrator is a lovely, romantic Christmas gift for a woman with a unique shape that is perfect for use during intimate moments together or along. The Layaspot fits in the palm of your hand and measures about the size of a computer mouse with a slightly more curvaceous, sensuous form. It runs on 2 AAA batteries and offers three different vibration settings—escallating, pulsating and standard one-level. The Hitachi Magic Wand was designed as a back and body massager and works great for that purpose; however, this plug in the wall vibrator continues to be one of the most popular sex toys for the last twenty years. It offers an exceptionally strong vibration and never runs out of batteries like vibrators do.
A new fun category of vibrators has emerged from the adult toy industry—the Remote Controlled Vibrator. These vibrators can be worn under clothing and controlled with a remote by your partner from up to 30 feet away.
If you’re looking for a beautiful pleasure toy for the Holidays hand-blown glass dildo works of art are spectacularly beautiful and erotic. Pleasure Toys and Phallix offer a wide range of stunning functional glass art works with price ranges from about $40 to as much as $300 for glass phallic pieces with incredibly intricate patterns inside. You ask, why would anyone use a glass sex toy? You’ll be surprised to learn that glass dildo toys are the fastest growing segment of the huge adult toy industry. Many people love the cool feel of glass on their skin and glass toys are completely hygienic, unlike latex sex toys.
These are a few of the fun, sexy gifts you can share with your partner this Holiday, but you probably don’t want to open these gifts in front of the kids.
- About The Author
Lance Russell is the author of the book "Recipes for Better Sex: 75 Delicious Ways to Spice Up Your Love Life" and he has lectured on human sexuality at Universities in California. In addition, he is co-owner of the adult toy store www.PleasureMeNow.com.
A lightly scented massage oil can be appreciated by both sexes. A nice oil greatly adds to the massage experience and massage is a perfect way to gain intimacy with your partner. You can take the experience one step further by adding an instructional DVD on Erotic Massage from Sinclair. Perhaps surprisingly, there are many massage techniques to arouse your lover. This DVD covers sexual techniques for both men and women.
An even more complete overview of sexual positions and techniques is the “Better Sex Series” DVDs from Sinclair Intimacy Institute. These 3 DVDs cover more than four hours of sexual advice from doctors and other sexual professionals explicitly demonstrated by couples.
Another fun category of sexy toys for couples to enjoy is vibrators. There are thousands of vibrators to choose from, some are sexually graphic in the form of a penis and others don’t reveal their intended purpose at all. Two very popular sexually stealth vibrators are the Layaspot Vibrator by Fun Factory and the Hitachi Magic Wand.
The Layaspot Vibrator is a lovely, romantic Christmas gift for a woman with a unique shape that is perfect for use during intimate moments together or along. The Layaspot fits in the palm of your hand and measures about the size of a computer mouse with a slightly more curvaceous, sensuous form. It runs on 2 AAA batteries and offers three different vibration settings—escallating, pulsating and standard one-level. The Hitachi Magic Wand was designed as a back and body massager and works great for that purpose; however, this plug in the wall vibrator continues to be one of the most popular sex toys for the last twenty years. It offers an exceptionally strong vibration and never runs out of batteries like vibrators do.
A new fun category of vibrators has emerged from the adult toy industry—the Remote Controlled Vibrator. These vibrators can be worn under clothing and controlled with a remote by your partner from up to 30 feet away.
If you’re looking for a beautiful pleasure toy for the Holidays hand-blown glass dildo works of art are spectacularly beautiful and erotic. Pleasure Toys and Phallix offer a wide range of stunning functional glass art works with price ranges from about $40 to as much as $300 for glass phallic pieces with incredibly intricate patterns inside. You ask, why would anyone use a glass sex toy? You’ll be surprised to learn that glass dildo toys are the fastest growing segment of the huge adult toy industry. Many people love the cool feel of glass on their skin and glass toys are completely hygienic, unlike latex sex toys.
These are a few of the fun, sexy gifts you can share with your partner this Holiday, but you probably don’t want to open these gifts in front of the kids.
- About The Author
Lance Russell is the author of the book "Recipes for Better Sex: 75 Delicious Ways to Spice Up Your Love Life" and he has lectured on human sexuality at Universities in California. In addition, he is co-owner of the adult toy store www.PleasureMeNow.com.
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