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Ten Mistakes Women Make When Having Sex With A Man by: Rod Phillips

2006-12-15T00:02:00.000-08:00

You see a lot of articles about what men can do during sex to make it better for the woman, but there's a lot less information - and opinion - on the mistakes women make. So, to set the record straight, here's our list of ten things for women to avoid.

1 Expecting him to think like a woman

We've all seen loads of books with titles like "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus" which highlight an unfortunate difference between the sexes. Men and women don't think the same way - and while we're not going to get into why this happens, it's important to remember that fact when you're in a relationship. In general, men are not as romantic as women, they don't see romance as a necessary prelude to sex, and they can divorce sex from their feelings in a way that perhaps most women can't. So there will be plenty of times when a man wants sex even if he isn't feeling romantic and connected to his partner.

For him, the physical pleasure of sex is a reward in itself. He doesn't need to be seduced into feeling desire (though he may appreciate it if you do seduce him!), at least most of the time, for his sex drive is a pretty constant part of his maleness. I think that's what women don't understand.

They know how elusive and emotional their own sex drive is, but they don't appreciate how different it is for a man. Think of it this way: men can enjoy sex with their partner whether they are feeling loving or not; in fact they often find their feelings of love for their partner when they have sex with her. By contrast, women often say they need to feel loving before they want sex - or at least before they are prepared to give themselves heart and soul to a man.

2 Not showing your sexual energy

Women who were brought up to be demure "good girls" (i.e. non-sexual) may find it difficult to express the essence of their feminine energy during sex. And a lot of women also have problems expressing their anger, an emotion which can add real spice to the sexual union between men and women. This lack of sexual energy might appear as a reluctance to initiate sex, a reluctance to be the active partner, a reluctance to make noises or thrust, or simply an overall tendency to wait for the man to lead and direct what happens during sex.

But believe me, ladies, your man will really like it when you express your passion - whether that means you getting on top for woman on top sex, moving in a way that will give you the greatest pleasure, kissing him passionately, or being assertive about what you want in bed.

3 Being too gentle when you touch his penis

Men like a firmer touch than women, especially when it comes to their penises. If you ever have the pleasure of watching him masturbate, you'll see how much pressure he uses on his penis - especially as he nears orgasm. If you're doing it for him, ask him to tell you what you're doing right and what he'd like done differently. He'll really appreciate your efforts to give him more pleasure.

4 Not experimenting with sex

The saying has it that men think about sex ten times an hour - or is it a hundred? Yes, of course that's an exaggeration, but it isn't much of one. While some women have a high sexual desire, it's true to say that women in general are much less sexy than men when they're not in the bedroom. Men fantasize all the time - about the things they see, what they'd like to do, how they'd like to do it, and so on. With such an active sexual imagination, it's not hard to understand why a bit of variation in the bedroom routine can keep a man sexually happy.

It doesn't have to be way out stuff like bondage, either. For example, try changing sex positions once in a while: take the initiative and get on top of him or let him enjoy rear entry for a change. Talk dirty to him if you've never tried that before; explore and play with new parts of his body, such as his anus and perineum, during foreplay - or even during the main event. Seduce him into a "quickie" by leaving a trail of clothes across the floor into the bedroom. Greet him at the door in sexy clothing. Phone him at work and tell him what you'd like to do to him later that day.....well, you get the idea - use your imagination!

5 Expecting him to read your mind

Yes, we know it's difficult to express your sexual desires directly. But men don't think like women. They don't read clues, they don't get hints. So stop communicating indirectly, and tell him what you want. And give him feedback when you get it! That way, he'll know exactly what he's supposed to be doing, how you feel about it, and whether to do it again. For example, if you like what he's doing during sex, let him know with your moans of pleasure.

6 Criticizing him

I think one of the reasons women can be so critical of their man is that they've never learned the art of direct communication. Than means stating clearly and directly what you want, how you want it, and whether you got it - and how you feel about it afterwards. Men appreciate that style of talk - they know where they stand and it removes the uncertainty for them.

Criticism is an indirect way of saying that your needs are not being met - but if you read number 5 above, then maybe you've begun to understand that your man won't know what you want unless you tell him. If you're judging his love for you on the basis of his ability to anticipate and meet your needs without you saying what they are, well, I'm afraid you aren't likely to be very satisfied. And it won't be his fault.

7 Letting him take responsibility for your orgasm A lot of us think that a man somehow has a responsibility to "give" a woman an orgasm during sex. After all, that's how a lot of us were brought up - that a man somehow has to look after "his" woman. And that idea extends to making sure she has an orgasm during sex.....but the truth is that women are responsible for their own orgasms. So while it might be nice for your man to help you get there, if you don't make it to orgasm through his efforts, you can always take matters into your own hands.

8 Controlling him by withdrawing sex

One of the most unhealthy things you can do in a relationship is to use sex as a weapon. This is basically a statement that you feel powerless, that you think withholding sex is the only way you can get what you want. Rather than trying to exert some influence over your man by denying him the pleasure of your body, try communicating directly what you want and don't want. (That might even extend to simply saying you don't feel emotionally close enough to your partner to want sex.)

9 Thinking he'll feel the same way about your body that you do

It just isn't so. Men don't attach the judgments to women's bodies that women do. So, for example, even if he thinks your butt really is a bit on the large side, it won't matter to him the way it matters to you. In fact, he probably quite likes it. And he certainly won't be put off making love, or want the lights off, because of it. While you waste time and emotional energy wondering if you're completely undesirable because of some aspect of your body, he'll never give it a second thought. It's women who judge their bodies, I think for the sake of comparison with other women, not men.

10 Not making up with sex after an argument

Well, yes, I know that a lot of couples do make up with sex when they've had an argument, but in fact many more don't. As I said above, most women think that they need to be feeling loving and emotionally close before they want sex. Yet I've met a lot of couples in my work as a sexual therapist who have found that taking the risk and jumping into bed can work really well as a way of getting close again.

Even if you don't feel sexy or loving when you start making love, after a while the simple act of being physically connected in bed can really change the way you feel about each other. The other way of settling an argument (that's talking, seeking understanding, and thrashing out how you feel) is fine: but once in a while try a more direct method of getting your feelings back on track - just go to bed together!

About The Author
Rod Phillips is a writer for Sex Techniques And Positions - http://www.sex-techniques-and-positions.com/index.html Send your comments and ideas for better sex to tips@sex-techniques-and-positions.com.

15 Sure-Shot Christmas Gift Ideas For Men by: Samuel Hary

2006-12-12T04:24:00.000-08:00

When you desperately want to gift them something ‘different’ this year

Anyone who has ever tried giving a ‘different’ gift to their men folk on a Christmas will know what I am talking about. It is far easier to select gift for women due to the kind of variety and range available in the market. Anyone under 30 would love to have the latest designer makeup offering. Above 40 will love some concoctions of skin creams. Bath luxuries, new shimmering evening dress, cookery classes vouchers, time saving kitchen equipment…there is no dearth of offerings for women.

However, for men, the choices are so limited. How many times can you gift someone golf clubs, socks, aftershave, watch or a good old leather wallet?? Any offbeat gift like bath marbles or a cute puppy may not hit-off with everyone. You are always in doubt while experimenting, if it’s the right thing.

Here are some alternative gift ideas that might earn you that big broad smile from your dad, grandpa or husband. The kinky ones will get you some hugs and more from your man.

. Sudoku Toilet Roll – For the enthusiasts who can’t get enough of the game. It is a sure way to pass time on the bob. Sudoku is a massive puzzling craze that has swept the world. One of those addictive little games that will keep you amused for hours. Gift one to the one you love and watch their grins on receiving this unusual gift.

. Racing Grannies – These are desktop dolls in the form of ageing, wrinkled grannies, but race around faster than a car on the desk. Race these old dears at crippling speeds, wind them up and watch them go, just adjust the grannies arms to find the perfect race position. Two grannies complete with zimmer frames and shopping baskets will have you howling with laughter as you watch them scuttle along the desk. Ultimate fun guaranteed!!

. Babe Beer Bottle Holder – If you want to gift him something kinky this Christmas, we have the perfect gift. The Babe Beer bottle holder has an alluring ahem…female figurine on the outside. He will remember you each time he holds the holder or the babe… . Hand Mobile Battery Charger - For emergency times when he needs to recharge his cell but there is no electrical socket nearby. This neat little gadget has a shaft that is rotated by hand. A 3-minute charging results in a talk time of about 7-8 minutes. Can be remodelled to suit any mobile phone brand. Perfect gift for any gizmo-freak.

. A hammock – Rekindle the memories of that Caribbean holiday by gifting him a hammock. Who wouldn’t love to lounge around in a hammock in the sun (even if imagined!) with a beer bottle in hand? A suitable gift for those who love to rest their derrieres often enough..

. Hip flask cum Cigarette Case – A perfect gift to a Football fanatic. When he goes to see his favourite team in action, this cute little flask helps him carry his favourite spirit and upto 6 cigarettes in neat, very small case. Looks elegant too.

. Virtual Girlfriend Game – Gift this video game to your brother or friend if they recently got dumped or have been too shy to ask anyone out. It will help them polish their dating skills. A perfect gift for tongue-tied teenagers.

. Whistling, Flashing Keylighter – They will never loose their keys again. On being whistled to, this amazing keylighter whistles back at you and flashes light. So gift this to your absent-minded hubby or careless teenager, they are bound to appreciate this thoughtful gesture.

. Football club share – What do you gift a Man United fan?? A share in their favourite football club!!! They will swear by you if you give them this chance to own a piece of the magic. These shares are available in different denominations for various clubs.

. An acre on Mars or Moon – What do you gift to a man who has everything, in his own words?? An acre of land on moon or Mars will really make them reach for the stars J Yes!! They are up for grabs and the recipients of your gift will get a neat little certificate to prove it. Now you know what to gift that well-off uncle.

. Family History Gift-Box – Perfect gift for teenagers finding their roots or people living away from their native neighbourhood. This box contains personalised family history of people in Wales, England, and Ireland. Imagine the surprise on their face in knowing how many of their ancestors went to the New World and who knows, they might even have royalty as part of their lineage.

. Personalised Stationery – Surprise him by gifting him his insignia stationary. He is sure to be impressed by the embossed letters of his name on all his personalised letter-pads, cards and other business and personal markings.

. Table Football game – Who hasn’t loved a good game of Table Football on a bleak wet day? Gift this to your bachelor friends or cousins and watch them play it over and over with squeals of delight. Danger: you might feel ignored in their company…

. Espresso Cappuccino Machines - For the modern wonders of men who need a coffee first thing in the morning but cant brew it to save their lives! This classy and handy machine makes life a little easier for your dear ones by serving them hot piping Espresso or Cappuccino every single morning unfailingly.

. ‘Macho-man’ Apron or ‘Danger: Man Cooking’ Apron – If you have survived more than one of their cooking disasters last year, its time to give them a ‘Danger – Man Cooking’ apron. Or, stroke their ego and laugh as they put on a ‘Macho-Man’ apron and then sweetly ask them to fix the dinner.

. Men will always be boys.

- About The Author
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Defining Menopause by: Rob Buenaventura

2006-12-12T04:16:00.000-08:00

There is a reason that menopause is often referred to as ‘the change.’ It is after all a huge change for a woman’s bodies that carries with it a powerful physical and psychological toll. Not only does it herald the end of menstrual cycles (a cause for some amount of cheering) it is also the harbinger of the end of youth or the onset of age, which results in some rather mixed emotions.

When the ovaries quite producing estrogen, the reproductive system begins to essentially close up shop. This process is what is considered menopause. As your body adjusts to the changes taking places, it creates certain ‘coping mechanisms’ in order to process these changes in hormone levels. The coping mechanisms that your body creates are known as the symptoms of menopause.

These symptoms include:

1) Hot flashes, sometimes accompanied by palpitations.

2) Extreme irritability, mood swings, depression, and inability to concentrate

3) Vaginal dryness and increasing urinary frequency accompanied by decreasing and erratic menstrual cycles.

So what is Menopause?

Technically, menopause is the term used to describe the ending of the monthly menstrual cycle. The process can last anywhere from six months to five years while one year is the common length of time. It is important to remember that the duration will vary between women. Another important thing to note is that menopause is not an illness or a disease but a natural progression in the cycle of life. Menopause can be surgically produced when the ovaries are removed during a hysterectomy.

When Does Menopause Occur?

The average age at which menopause occurs is 50.5 years, however some women enter into the process much earlier. Cancer sufferers and those who have received chemotherapy often experience an early onset of menopausal symptoms. Other things that can bring on early menopause include autoimmune disorders, thyroid disease, and diabetes mellitus. Early menopause is typically defined as menopause that occurs before the age of 40. The actual onset of premature menopause can be formally diagnosed through the measurements of certain hormones within the body.

One of the most common risks or problems associated with menopause is the increased loss of bone known as osteoporosis. Special care and attention should be paid, especially to women who are particularly vulnerable or at risk for developing this condition.

During the early stages of menopause, the hormones estrogen and progesterone lessen and menstrual cycles become increasingly irregular. Fertility and the ability to have children also tend to decrease during this process as well.

Some Common Treatments for Menopause are:

1) Hormone replacement therapy also known as HRT

2) Alternative therapies

3) Natural remedies

4) Lifestyle changes (fitness and dietary changes)

5) Nutritional supplements It is important to note that according to a Women’s Health Initiative study, women who participate in HRT are at a much higher risk for certain diseases. It is vitally important that you discuss the risks and advantages involved in this type of therapy with your physician in order to make an informed decision.

- About The Author

Rob Buenaventura invites you to check out http://www.menopausetime.com. Here we provide a website on menopause symptoms and related common questions on menopause health. Think you might be entering menopause?

Check out http://www.menopausetime.com/symptoms/first-symptom-of-menopause.html for early symptoms on menopause.

How to Achive and Maintain a Healthy, Sexy Body by: Jane Morris

2006-11-24T06:37:00.000-08:00

In a world where slim, slender, and sexy are the standards of the society, obesity has no place. From television programs, commercials, and product advertisements to magazine features, billboards, and internet pop-ups, you won’t be able to find men unpacked with biceps, triceps, and abdominal muscles nor women with vital statistics other than 36-24-36.

How strange society can be! It dictates what is wrong and what is right, what is proper and what is not that if you feel you don’t belong to the “in” crowd, how sad and low can you be? People judge other people with no reasonable bases making the discriminated ones feel left out and unwanted.

As sensitive people who belong to such unfriendly societies, we get affected by cold treatments and pathetic stares. But we can’t let anybody make us feel inferior to them anytime. We were all created equal. Thus, we deserve to be feeling what they are feeling, to be doing what they are doing, and to be living how they are living in this strange world.

But reality check: how can we feel, do, and live the way other people do if there really is something that hinders us?

I used to be fat myself when I was young. Somehow, I felt inferior and caused me to envy a lot of people. I started wondering, why can’t my crush notice me? Or why can’t I join popularity contests? Is it really because of my physical attributes, particularly my body weight and figure? It’s sad to see that my slim friends and classmates got to have whatever they like while I couldn’t. Indeed, it was because I was fat, and they are not. Even though the effects of my disorder was purely psychological and didn’t bring any other biological problems, still it was unhappy and unhealthy.

As time passed by, I realized that I don’t want to be left out. Instead, I want to be noticed and recognized. I want to feel happy, healthy, and satisfied. Thus, I made an effort to lose weight and get rid of excess fats in my body. Thankfully, with an ounce of willingness, a cup of patience, and a spoon of determination, I was able to achieve what once was only a dream. Such comments like “You look slimmer,” or “Have you lost weight? Tell me your secret,” was really music to my ears.

I have traveled the path of overweight and unhappiness in a single journey; it wasn’t really a smooth ride – a trip not worth remembering. But, on the other hand, without that experience, I wouldn’t have been in my position now – happy and contented, the real richness in the world.

I have used self-hypnosis to make sure my mind reinforced what my body needed to do. It was really amazing setting up my mind to 'control' what I wanted to achieve. I understood the importance of setting realisable and achieveable goals, and then by a simple process of repetition, programmed muy mind to anticipate success - and it worked.

Thus, if I can do it, so can you. I don’t want any other people to feel what I felt before – unwanted, alone, and taken for granted. Or worse, might even suffer from complications and other illnesses. Being fat, overweight, or obese is unhealthy, both in the mind and in the body. We know it. We’ve been there, right? Now, come with me to a journey where we can change not only our body size, weight, and figure, but our lives as well. There’s nothing more wonderful than being able to do what you want to do or to go where you’d like you go. That is real happiness and contentment. And like me, you too can achieve it.

In a world where slim, slender, and sexy are the standards of the society, obesity has to go. So, let’s go terminate it!

- About The Author
Jane Morris is a member of Horizon Direct Services, and has written a number of articles on self improvement. The book can be downloaded at http://tinyurl.com/7jopr www.horizondirectservices.com Jane’s main site, with links to a number of other self-improvement products and services www.mindpowersite.com self-hypnosis CD’s for a number of complimentary self-improvement topics www.weightlosspatch.com Weight loss patch by Visifirm

Drinking and Sex - Should You? by: Yair Czitrom

2006-11-24T06:31:00.000-08:00

Drinking is known as the number one 'panties/boxers remover' in the whole world. We all know that we should not drink and drive, but what about drinking and running to bed? We are not so sure about that, and those who have experienced having sex after drinking will probably agree and remember how big the mistake is.

Here are 7 reasons why not to drink and run to bed:

*The mature lover

The mature ladies love to have sex and like all of us they have that need. If we are talking about the ladies that are quite old, they have defiantly that need and probably have not done it for a long time. She will wait for you while you get drunk in the bar, and when you are done with you 5 th drink she will get you. Some of you will say: 'great'. Ok, we all have are style.

* Unknown sexual background

She is blonde, she has a great figure and she is willing to get to bed with you after the second drink...but she will wait until you are done with the bottle, so it will be more difficult for you the notice the 'extra' body part she has.

* Your best friend

You always knew that he is a bit different, and every time you have looked at a great looking girl's breasts, he was looking at her boyfriend's ass. Even though he does not fancy you, he will after the 3 rd drink, and you start to have the ';I need some sex' feelings. After your 3 rd drink you start compromising...and then you wake up in the morning! Now you need to face it.

* The Weight issue

She is sexy, she is pretty, she does not say no and she is about 15 sizes more then you when it is coming to fashion. The sex might be great, but you back aches will be there for years to remind you that moment when you said YES to her...when she asked you if it is ok if she will sits on you.
* From the outside and underneath

Yea, she looks amazing with that mini skirt and when you drink, you do not really get down to the bottom of the details, but the next day, just thinking about what you have been licking could make you sick.

* Act of force.

She looks great and she wants sex...but she is also very 'active' person. If you are into it - great, otherwise, you might find out that the woman of your dreams is a sado queen that wants you here and now as here little wick salve. You might find out that her meaning of sex includes cleaning the house and some other things that you do not really feel like when you are drunk.

*The sticky punch line

All went extremely well. You guys had an amazing evening, and you might even love her for that...but now you will have to pay for it for the rest of your life...as you were so drunk that you married her.

If you are really looking for a one night stand come to http://www.onenighstanddate.com...it is free.

- About The Author
Yair Czitrom is the owner and webmaster of http://www.onenightstanddate.com - An experienced online dater that took his dating knowledge and web skills as a dater and as an IT pro to help other fun seekers in today’s cyber world. He is an expert writer on ezinearticles.com and searchwarp.com

G Spot Positions: Our Favorite 3 Positions to Hit Your G Spot During Sex by: Nathan Patmor

2006-11-24T06:16:00.000-08:00

I read the other day that the majority of American’s regularly have sex in just a few positions. Well, if that’s true, its time to shake things up! This article is on g spot positions. These are our favorite ways of hitting the g-spot during sex.

If you like boring, normal sex, that lasts just 5 – 10 minutes, don’t read this page. If you’re feeling more adventurous, and are ready to blow your mind then please, proceed!

So, the first step in hitting your g spot during sex is to know where it is! For a refresher course, check out this page on the g spot location. You also may want to try a finding the g spot exercise first.

From here on, we’re going to assume that you (and your partner) know where your g-spot is, and how to best stimulate it to give you pleasure.

Now that that’s all taken care of – lets focus on g spot positions. The first step is to recognize that the g spot, or g spot area, is small and not always in the same place. So, throughout your sex you’ll both need to be communicating. What works, what feels good, what doesn’t, a little to the right, a little to the left, etc.

In the beginning, as you explore different g spot positions, its likely best if you agree not to have orgasms. We’ve found this makes it easy to have a sense of exploration and play.

And, without further delay, here are our three favorite g spot positions. Enjoy!

Ride ‘Em Cowboy (Woman on Top)

I have to say there’s something so sexy about a woman being on top, in charge of finding what feels the best. Really, this position is ideal because it allows the woman to control the depth, intensity, and speed. It gives you the ability to play, and explore, and notice how much more pleasure comes from subtle differences.

As you are on top, experiment with what feel’s best to you. Move, shift, tell your partner what feel’s good, rock back and forth, take it deep, keep it shallow, etc. This will likely work best if you are already aroused and hot. (This is true with all these g spot positions)

Now, as the guy in this position, you’re not just laying back passively (thought that is fine to do – just not now!). What will help your partner most is if you tilt your pelvis as much as possible. The more you can do this, the better.

You’ll also get a great workout! : )

Unfortunately, if you are anything like me, you’ll get super tired super quick. In the beginning we used to use alot of pillows to try to angle my hips. Lately, we’ve really been enjoying something called the wedge, its a liberator shape. This small shape puts your pelvis in the perfect tilted position without you having to do any work.

I know it sounds crazy, but the small, subtle positioning this enables, makes all the difference. If you want to find out more about liberator shapes, their website is www.liberatorshapes.com.

Doggy Style (Crouching, Man Coming from Behind)

This is one of our favorite g spot positions. Not only do you have great g-spot access, but there’s just something so primal andsexy about *&#*! from behind.

Now, guys, in this position you can take it easy and let her do all the work. In this case, ladies, use your thighs to press back and find the depth, thrust style, and position that works best for you.

However, guys, if you want to be more active, you can easily adapt this position. Push your woman down, and lay more on top of her (still coming in from behind)

Now, for the best g spot stimulation, position your legs outside of hers and put more of your weight forward, so you are riding her from up higher.

This puts your penis on more of a downward angle, and helps you hit her g-spot more directly. You can also experiment with having her legs more open, or more closed to see what feels best.

We've also been using the liberator shape - the wedge - in this position too. We found if we put that underneath my girlfriend, it gives her hips a particular tilt that totally amp things up.

Your Highness (Man Kneeling or Standing, Woman's Legs on His Shoulders)

We love this sex position. With many g spot positions you can’t look each other in the eyes. With this one, we recommend it. Also, when you want to hit the g spot, having your legs high and wide is the secret ingredient. Sometimes putting your feet on your partner’s shoulders can be the most comfortable (its also just super sexy!)

Now, you can do this position in lots of ways. You can do it off your sofa, a chair, or your coffee table (we won’t tell!). Or, you can modify it to work off your bed by kneeling vs standing. The only real key to this position is that your partner is angled upward, with her legs spread wide or on your shoulders. You can achieve this combination in lots of different ways (be creative!)

Well, these are our three favorite g spot positions, and I hope you try them out and enjoy!

- About The Author
Nathan Patmor. Find and explore your g spot. Enjoy amazing sex and a better relationship. Find tips, techniques, and exercises written by a real couple. www.master-your-g-spot.com

Sexy Holiday Gift Ideas by: Lance Russell

2006-11-24T06:08:00.000-08:00

If you’re looking for a gift that’s a little sexy or a bit naughty you’ll find some fun ideas how to spice up the eggnog below. These choices are not your standard lingerie gifts. You, your partner and your love life will all benefit when you give your significant other something sexy for the Holidays. You’ll be able to share memorable intimate moments and you don’t need to spend a fortune.

A lightly scented massage oil can be appreciated by both sexes. A nice oil greatly adds to the massage experience and massage is a perfect way to gain intimacy with your partner. You can take the experience one step further by adding an instructional DVD on Erotic Massage from Sinclair. Perhaps surprisingly, there are many massage techniques to arouse your lover. This DVD covers sexual techniques for both men and women.

An even more complete overview of sexual positions and techniques is the “Better Sex Series” DVDs from Sinclair Intimacy Institute. These 3 DVDs cover more than four hours of sexual advice from doctors and other sexual professionals explicitly demonstrated by couples.

Another fun category of sexy toys for couples to enjoy is vibrators. There are thousands of vibrators to choose from, some are sexually graphic in the form of a penis and others don’t reveal their intended purpose at all. Two very popular sexually stealth vibrators are the Layaspot Vibrator by Fun Factory and the Hitachi Magic Wand.

The Layaspot Vibrator is a lovely, romantic Christmas gift for a woman with a unique shape that is perfect for use during intimate moments together or along. The Layaspot fits in the palm of your hand and measures about the size of a computer mouse with a slightly more curvaceous, sensuous form. It runs on 2 AAA batteries and offers three different vibration settings—escallating, pulsating and standard one-level. The Hitachi Magic Wand was designed as a back and body massager and works great for that purpose; however, this plug in the wall vibrator continues to be one of the most popular sex toys for the last twenty years. It offers an exceptionally strong vibration and never runs out of batteries like vibrators do.

A new fun category of vibrators has emerged from the adult toy industry—the Remote Controlled Vibrator. These vibrators can be worn under clothing and controlled with a remote by your partner from up to 30 feet away.

If you’re looking for a beautiful pleasure toy for the Holidays hand-blown glass dildo works of art are spectacularly beautiful and erotic. Pleasure Toys and Phallix offer a wide range of stunning functional glass art works with price ranges from about $40 to as much as $300 for glass phallic pieces with incredibly intricate patterns inside. You ask, why would anyone use a glass sex toy? You’ll be surprised to learn that glass dildo toys are the fastest growing segment of the huge adult toy industry. Many people love the cool feel of glass on their skin and glass toys are completely hygienic, unlike latex sex toys.

These are a few of the fun, sexy gifts you can share with your partner this Holiday, but you probably don’t want to open these gifts in front of the kids.

- About The Author
Lance Russell is the author of the book "Recipes for Better Sex: 75 Delicious Ways to Spice Up Your Love Life" and he has lectured on human sexuality at Universities in California. In addition, he is co-owner of the adult toy store www.PleasureMeNow.com.

How To Get Sexy Legs In Just 3 Steps by: Janice Wee

2006-11-24T00:14:00.000-08:00

Guys do get distracted by long, lean, sexy legs peeking from the slit of a skirt, or flaunted in a mini skirt.

Any woman can have sexy legs. All you need to do is to keep your legs toned and wax them regularly.

Even cross dressers are able to make their legs look sexy.

To start with, first, you need to get your legs in shape. That means, get off your butt and start walking. Walking, running, jogging and climbing stairs really tone your legs.

Step 1. Tone your legs.

If you are serious about getting your legs very well toned, make that effort after work, to run for 45 minutes each day. You could run around the compound, run your way home, run on a jogging track or even in the gym. Just do it before dinner, straight out of the office.

On rainy days, climb the stairs instead. Try climbing up and down the stairs for a stretch of 30 minutes, without stopping.

Walk more. Walk instead of driving. If you take the public transport, get off a few stops before your actual destination and walk the rest of the way.

Getting toned legs takes effort. The end result is worth it. A plus that comes with these toned legs would be a slimmer body from all that exercise.

Step 2. Remove unwanted leg hair.

Next, wax your legs. Get a http://www.everythingbeauty.info/waxing.htm or try http://www.everythingbeauty.info/sugaring.htm instead. Or you could invest in an http://www.everythingbeauty.info/epilator.htm which you can use to remove your unwanted body hair for years to come. Waxing, sugaring or using the epilator remove your leg hair from the roots. The result is smoother skin. Hair regrowth is smoother as compared to the stubbly results you get from shaving or using a depilatory.

Step 3. Flaunt your smooth, well toned legs.

Smooth, well toned legs are always hot. They look even sexier in a pair of stockings. The sheen from the stockings or pantyhose highlight your legs.

http://www.buy-stockings.net/pantyhose.htm makes your legs look smoother. More refined. More sophisticated. A must for when you want to look put together. Sophisticated. A must for the office, boardroom and the dinner date. If you have a problem with your tummy, go for the http://www.buy-stockings.net/control-top-pantyhose.htm . That would hold your tummy in. In fact, a good pantyhose holds in your legs, making them look more slender.

Then there are the http://www.buy-stockings.net/Fishnet-Stockings.htm . These are about pure, raw sex appeal. For that glamorous night. For those moments when you want to turn heads. For movie star on the red carpet treatment. These add the finishing touch.

Wear a dress, a skirt or shorts that show off as much leg as you want.

- About The Author
Janice Wee is the webmaster of http://www.buy-stockings.net where you can find the stockings, tights, panty hose and thermal underwear.

SEX, Self esteem, and ME ! by: Dorothy Lafrinere

2006-11-23T01:32:00.000-08:00

I have touched on so many emotions in the past and I am still feeling the need to share yet another. I have spoken on women's issues mainly, yet trying to keep men on a fair plain, mainly due to the facts and studies that more women experience self-esteem issues and jealousy monsters than men. Most of our emotions are gender friendly, except of course the ever so dreaded PMS and Menopause thingy. Although I have heard in passing that men do go through Menopause in a similar way. I will leave that for another article! (wink) If you have noticed throughout my blogs, that I have tried to remind everyone that I am speaking of both genders, even if I keep saying women. This is after all, a take off from my women's self-esteem website.

I know you are all wondering, hmmm, "What is this article going to be about?"

Well.. it is going to be about "SEX"! Now I know I have your attention!

Is it not strange how anything that has the word, "SEX" in it, catches every ones eyes. Oh, do not even say, "Not me". It is a three letter word that has more punch than Mohhamad Ally`s fist. No offence meant there. On a more serious note, SEX is definitely a key in ones well being, or higher self esteem. When we feel sexy, we can jump the highest wall and climb the tallest mountain. Yes, I am speaking to adults on this one. After all, it is when we reach adulthood that life becomes so complicated, and all the insecurities begin to control ones mind. We also find"SEX". It is so a part of what makes a very stable beginning to a relationship, which one hopes flows into a marriage partnership. Again, please do not say, "I never had premarital SEX". My parents had it, so I know everyone else in the world did too. Okay, I will maybe let 10 people get away with it. I am trying to incorporate self-esteem with relationships because a lot of what goes on between a man and a woman will trigger off ones deep inner emotions such as self esteem.

I have asked a few people of both genders, this question: "Why do people eventually forget what they have at home?" Is it because one or both have stopped trying to impress the other? Hmmm. Why would one stop trying to look good for their mate? Do you want your mate to fantasize of someone else in order to have SEX? (harsh, I know, but it is a truth) Do you talk to you mate in bed? Why not? After and during SEX, is the best time to talk to each other. Life is sweet after SEX and no one wants to get off the "Good feeling plateau". The answers I received were shrugged shoulders to start with, which is really sad. It was more like, "DUH". One man actually was excited to give his answer, "Damn, I agree". That was about it. Again I say, "Sad"! Men and Women need to learn how to talk. I mean talk about their true grit feelings. Example: "Baby, am I sexy enough for you, I mean is there anything I can do to make you want me more?" Or if you desires something different from yours partner in SEX, you should be able to ask it without the fear of hurting the others feelings. Or having to calm them down from an, "Oh, so you don't like me the way I am?"!!! We all fall into a first impulse scenario, especially if we have even the slightest insecurity. SEX is suppose to be fun and open and raw. Women, listen to me now, your man loves your body, he really does. SEX is non judgemental. That's what I like about it. Passion through SEX is the most natural emotion that we have been blessed with. Why? It is because it is involving true emotion, there is no room for worry or before thoughts, which I call fabricated emotions. Once we have turned the wheels of the SEX engine, we are good to go. It is pure and clearly set.

Our bodies become our maps to nothing but good feelings and becoming one with our partner. Our partner is no more thinking of a movie he saw, or the perfect person that crossed their paths, than they are about work the next day. It is just the two of you, it is purely sweet SEX. We allow ourselves through our weaknesses to put up walls that keep us from opening our self to our partner. We know we crave them to become one with us, to inhale their oh so sweet body smells, and to feel the sexual adrenaline flow through our veins. Is that not enough to break down the walls of worry and insecurities? Many partners do not even know whats going on when their partners are in this stage of detachment. They will be tempted to take it as a rejection. We all know that once we feel rejected, we tend to not ask questions, thus closing the doors. SEX is totally the last thing on your mind when you feel that, resulting in both parties now setting up walls. What I am saying here is that it is soooo important to communicate with your partner. If you do not feel sexy or you just think maybe you smell bad, (shush), you are committed to tell them. When one knows that the other is not into SEX because they are feeling low about themselves, the norm will actually try very hard to break down those damn insecurity walls. That's where TRUST and SEX are joined. With out those two friends, there is noooo orgasms. I know everyone luvz those. To get orgasms you must engage in SEX. There is no need for words, or I dids, or I did not`s. It is just REAL FEELINGS between two people. Can you actually say after SEX with your partner, that you feel low or insecure? NOPE!..well HELLO then, maybe it is time to look at SEX as not just a perk in a relationship. Time to look at SEX as an answer to bringing your lows to highs. People pay good money for therapists, and ruin their bodies taking drugs to get those feelings. WHY, when we have the cure right in front of us? And with a willing partner at your feet to do your bidding? Need I say more? It's probably the first thing one shuts down when they feel their self esteem taking the wrong turn. Well then in that case, you need to address it immediately and grab your partner and just have SEX. Don`t laugh, I am serious. Tease each other, make each other laugh. It will take one second of body play to get the veins filled with hot blood, that triggers off your sexual appetite, then it is the big "O" from there! Oh and guess what, no more low self esteem feelings. WOOT!!!

One`s self-esteem rises and falls like waves!

Once it hits bottom it is time for emotional housecleaning and much needed SEX!

- About The Author
Dorothy owner/operator http://www.womensselfesteem.com
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How Perfumes Make You Sexy by: Janice Wee

2006-11-23T00:23:00.000-08:00

What attracts you to the opposite sex?

What makes a guy and a girl fall in love?

Is it the way they look?

Things they have in common?

A special connection?

Or is it the way they smell to each other?

Actually, the way you smell plays an important part in the mating game. It is true in the animal world. Like it or not, it is also true among people.

Ever heard about pheromones? Read http://www.womanht.com/perfume/best_pheromone_product.htm for the details.

That is the secret of sexual attraction.

In the animal world, pheromones attract member the opposite sex irresistably when the animal is in heat. Think about the female cat who attracts male cats in droves, who fight over her when she is in heat.

Among insects, a starving cockroach on the verge of dying from hunger would rather follow the source of pheromones with the hope of mating, rather than go for the food that would save his life.

Humans are not spared from the effects of pheromones either. That fuzzy feeling a woman gets near the presence of her special guy could well be due to pheromones. Likewise, men are attracted to a woman, by her looks, her personality, and the pheromones she produces.

Everyone has a million apocrine glands whose sole function is to produce a smell. These only become active upon puberty. Upon sexual maturity. A sex scent, if you will.

Did you know that in certain parts of the world, during village dances, girls would hold slices of apple in their armpits while they dance. Then, they would offer the sweat soaked apples to the guys they fancy.

Perfumes as we know them were first used by Egyptians to embalm the dead bodies of mummies. Later, perfumes were used before sex. To get both parties in a more romantic mood.

Jasmine, patchouli, sandalwood, rose, ylang ylang and a number of other aromatherapy oils used in perfumery are known for their aphrodisiac properties.

I remember reading an amusing incident about a guy who used sandalwood as a sore throat remedy. It has an interesting side effect. It increased his libido significantly. That means sandalwood perfumes featured in http://www.perfume-online.org/sandalwood.htm do make you sexier.

Patchouli has a sweet, very strong, musky scent that is considered very sexy. On its own, it is the kind of scent you either love or hate, as it can be overpowering, but when blended into a perfume with other notes, it gives the perfume a sexier feel.

Ylang ylang has a strong, womanly scent. Ylang ylang can be overpowering but when used lightly or in blends, it is said to put one in a romantic mood. Ylang ylang perfumes like the ones from http://www.perfume-online.org/ylang.htm are ideal for that romantic night out.

Jasmine perfume you can get from http://www.perfume-online.org/jasmine.htm has a very sensual fragrance. Jasmine essential oil itself exerts an effect on a female hormones. It is used in aromatherapy to balance hormones and to boost confidence. Jasmine is popular in perfumes as it has a strong erogenous effect on people.

Then there is musk which on its own, is a potent masculine scent. With other scents, it might be barely detectable yet it gives the perfume bouquet an air of mystery. Even the lightest, most flowery perfumes contain a trace of musk.

Perfumes are often used like pheromones, for that aphrodisiac effect. Look at all the perfume ads. They usually center around romance, or seduction.

Going a step further, perfumes, which you can get at http://www.perfume-online.org also make you feel good about yourself. Many women buy perfumes for the sheer beauty of the fragrances. Perfumes can make you smell wonderful. They can make your shower a luxurious experience.

You set out to face the world, knowing you smell simply fabulous and that gives you that confidence which is really sexy.

About The Author
Janice Wee
The writer created http://www.perfume-online.org/ to help you find your ideal brand name perfume at bargain prices, easily.

How To Choose The Perfect Necklace - One That Makes You Look Your Sexiest by: Janice Wee

2006-11-23T00:20:00.000-08:00

That necklace you wear can make or break the outfit. Of all the jewelry pieces you might choose, your necklace can make the greatest impact on the overall look.

Take a simple black cocktail dress for example. On its own, is almost like a uniform. You could disappear into the crowd if you are not careful.

Now add on a lariat. A stunning necklace that draws attention. Better yet, if you have the height for it, put on a pearl rope, or a gorgeous necklace that is 37 inches or longer. A really long necklace that makes a grand statement.

Choosing that perfect necklace is all about what suits you. Your height. Your build. Your neck. The outfit you are going to wear.

The right choice makes the overall look simply gorgeous.

Let's start with the neckline of the outfit. You want the focal part of the necklace to be either against your skin or contrasted against the fabric of your outfit.

The last thing you want is a necklace that is partially hidden in your neckline. That would spoil the overall look. If the pendant plays peekaboo in the neckline, then shorten the chain. Or put that pendant in either a shorter chain, so it sits confidently above your neckline, or go for a much longer necklace that would contrast beautifully against the fabric of your outfit.

Next, look at your neck.

Do you have a long slender neck? If you do, collar necklace as shown in http://www.alljewelry.info/search.php?search=collar or chokers like the ones at http://www.alljewelry.info/search.php?search=choker are for you. These ultra short necklaces bring out the beauty of your long slender neck.

If you have a short neck, then make it look longer by wearing a either a long necklace or a lariat, seen in http://www.alljewelry.info/search.php?search=lariat The long vertical line of a long necklace makes your neck look longer. The lariat, with the 2 dangling ends gives the illusion of length. These necklaces also have an overall slimming visual effect on your entire look.

Finally, look at your overall build. If you are petite, go for daintier pieces. If you have a larger build, go for something chunkier. Your necklace should be in proportion to your body.

Once you have evaluated yourself, pick a selection of necklaces that flatter your body, in colors that match your outfits. A few signature pieces are all you need.

- About The Author
Janice Wee
The writer is the webmaster of http://www.alljewelry.info/.

12 Simple Steps To Overcoming Shyness With The Opposite Sex by: Roger Mayne

2006-11-16T05:59:00.000-08:00

Getting over your shyness may seem impossible right now, but with a little effort and the desire to be more outgoing with the opposite sex then, you can definitely overcome shyness. It is important to know that the fears you feel when shyness hits you are typically always much worse than the reality of the situation.

Below, I've listed 12 simple steps to overcoming your shyness. These aren't magic solutions, but practice these steps and over time, your shyness will fade away and you will be left wondering what all the fuss was about in the first place.

Step 1. Fake it until you make it!

This is an infamous saying in the sales world. In other words; mimic or act like someone whom you admire and has all the personality traits you wish to have. This is a great way to start teaching yourself new behavioral habits. Put yourself in their shoes and play out real life situations as though you were them. This may sound crazy, but it does work!

Step 2. Ask yourself why you are shy.

Be honest with yourself. What are your real fears? What do you think people see when they talk with you? Answering these questions will help guide you into separating reality with what you are mistakenly perceiving it to be.

Step 3. Work on building your self confidence.

Yes, this will take effort on your part by reading books on the subject or listening to motivational tapes, but it works!

Step 4. Learn how to use daily affirmations.

Daily affirmations and positive mind influence can be very powerful tools to improve yourself. Again, this takes work but the power to change your shyness to confidence can come simply from saying things to yourself every day like "I like myself!" or "I am a winner!"

Step 5. Role play situations that make you anxious.

This may sound silly but take time out alone to Play-act situations that you get really nervous about. Pretend that you are talking to that guy or girl that makes you shy. Be that outgoing person that you wish to be. This play-acting will send messages to your sub-consciousness and help your inner-self change.

Step 6. Dress to impress.

Dress to impress, even if nobody is looking. Iron those clothes! Keep that hair neat! In other words, always look your best. This does amazing things to help you feel better about yourself and overcome shyness.

Step 7. Positive goals.

Start projects in life that make you feel good. Start a personal project, totally clean up your house clutter and your car. Work on a new hobby. How can these things help you with overcoming shyness? Simple - by working on things that make you feel good produces a natural aphrodisiac that turns you on and which indirectly turns on people around you.

Step 8. Reprogram your mental definition of shyness.

This goes along the same lines as using daily affirmations or by reading self help books. By changing your perception of shyness instead of having a negative attachment to the word, you will then help re-create your outlook on it.

Step 9. Learn to take risks.

How many times did you just want to go up to someone and tell them how beautiful they were, or how they impressed you with their clothes. As a daily exercise do this: Each day of the week go up to a total stranger and say something nice. It could be something as innocent as complimenting a pretty girl on her hair or a guy with his shirt. Do not worry about the outcome, do not worry about what they say, just do it!

Step 10. Face your fears!

Combat your fears of rejections by realizing that everyone gets rejected at one point or another, everyone! Learn not to take rejection personally. Use it as a tool.

Step 11. Get those dates.

A rather direct tactic, you can learn to overcome shyness by dating frequently. Practicing dating is the most successful way to rid your shyness but this takes a lot of nerve so date 'at your own risk'.

Step 12. Last but not least, be honest!

Tell people that you are shy up front, be honest with them. You will not believe just how nervous and shy the other person is as well. By just telling them you feel the same will help to put them at ease too. With both of you more relaxed, the date is sure to go much better.

- About The Author
Roger Mayne is author of 100 First Date Ideas. Impress your date by being different to all the others. Take her somewhere she's not been before. 100 First Dates reveals great ideas that will sweep her off her feet, and have you looking like a complete hero. firstdateidea.com

Men, Women, and Sex by: Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

2006-11-16T05:48:00.000-08:00

During my many years of counseling couples, I have frequently worked with the sexual problems that often occur in committed relationships. The most common complaint from men regarding sex is frequency, and the most common complaint from woman is lack of emotional intimacy.

There is a very good reason why these are the most common complaints – men and women are very different when it comes to sex!

The biological sexual drive, or lack of it, relates to how much testosterone is present. Men biologically have much more testosterone than women. Men’s biology equips them to be ready for sex most of the time, which is nature’s way of ensuring the survival of the species. Women, on the other hand, often do not experience a biological sexual drive unless they are in the middle of their menstrual cycle. This fact can create a big problem in relationships.

I’ve often heard men complain that:

“It’s not fair. My wife is in control of our sex life. If she wants it, then we have it. If she doesn’t, then I have no say about it. Why does it always have to be her way?”

“My wife complains that she needs to feel intimate before we make love, but I get to intimacy through making love.”

“I don’t reach out for sex much anymore because I’m tired of being rejected, but my wife says she wants to be pursued in a romantic way. This feels like a no-win to me.”

“I think if my wife really cared about me and my needs, she would have sex with me even when she wasn’t turned on.”

I’ve often heard women complain that:

“He always seems to be ready for sex, but I don’t feel turned on unless we are feeling close. I can’t just watch TV all evening and then feel like making love.”

“I often feel pulled on for sex, as if having sex is more important than caring about me. When I do what he wants, I feel used, and when I don’t, I run into his anger, resentment, blame or withdrawal. It feels like a no-win.”

“My husband often comes to me like a needy little boy, wanting me to pacify him or validate him with sex. Ugh! There is nothing erotic about an insecure, needy little boy!”

“There must be something wrong with me. I just don’t ever feel turned on anymore.”

The very real issue here, at least for most men under 40, is that they are biologically motivated and women are mostly emotionally motivated. Heterosexual women get turned on when their man is warm, open, caring, and personally powerful. Most women are not turned on by a man who is closed, distant, angry, blaming, or needy.

The problems of frequency can get resolved as men and women learn to understand and accept each other’s differences. Men need to understand and accept that women are not as biologically motivated as men are. Many women rarely even think about sex, while most men will tell you that they think about sex frequently throughout the day. When men understand that women are turned on by love, romance, emotional intimacy, warmth, caring, and personal power, then men may be motivated to learn to be the loving, powerful and romantic partners that women want and need.

When women can accept that men’s biology is very present for them, they can stop putting men down for it and start supporting their men in creating more emotional intimacy, romance, and personal power. When women criticize men instead of understanding and accepting them, they help to create some of the insecurity that is such a turn off to many women. When a woman can appreciate rather than demean her man for his sexuality, she can find ways of meeting his needs without feeling used.

Understanding and accepting each other’s differences and needs can lead both men and women toward more satisfying sex lives.

- About The Author
Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?" and “Healing Your Aloneness.” She is the co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding healing process. Learn Inner Bonding now! Visit her web site for a FREE Inner Bonding course: http://www.innerbonding.com or email her at mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com. Phone Sessions Available.

The Sexual Body Feelings and Erogenous Zones of Men by: Knut Holt

2006-11-16T05:43:00.000-08:00

There is a widespread misunderstanding by many women, and surpizingly also by many men that boys and men only have sexual feelings in their penis, or even only in their penis head. The reason why many men also carry this misconception is probably that boys often are educated to supress corporeal sensations and to be hard.

Many erogenous zones in men and boys are best activated when the body is relaxed, and the zones are stimulated in a gentle manner. Gentle stimulation of these zones in a relaxed state can give feelings of pleasure as strong as those in the penis, and can even result in some types of strong orgasmic reactions. Here is a survey of various erotic zones in the male body, and how to stimulate the sensations in these zones. You can stimulate yourself at these zones when masturbating, or the your female or gay partner can do the stimulative work.

THE SCROTUM AND THE TESTICLES

The scrotal skin and the content of the scrotum, including the testicles, are sensitive to erotic stimulation. When stimulating these genital parts, take first hold of the scrotum with your whole hand, warming it inside your hand, and massaging it gently by gripping movements. Warming and handling the scrotum gives feelings in the whole genital region. Stimulation of the scrotum also increases the blood circulation and engorgement of all the genital organs around the scrotum.

The testicles are best stimulated by gentle rolling movements with your fingers. Also tickle the scrotal skin with your finger tips. A part of the penis is actually hidden partly inside and partly behind the scrotal sack, by palpating with your finger tips between the testicles or at the side under the scrotum, you can massage this part of the penis. A sharp massage with your finger tips give the most intense sensations to this hidden root of the penis.

THE BREAST NIPPLES AND THEIR SURROUNDINGS

The nipples of a man are important erogenous zones, and a man has tits just as a woman, although the tits of a man are smaller and flatter that those of a woman. Actually a man has all the structures that a woman has in his breasts, but they are not developed to have a milk producing capacity. This means that a mans breasts have the same erotic capacity as the tits of woman. A man's nipples also have an erective capacity.

They rise and get hard upon stimulation. When stimulating a mans breasts, take hold of the breast with your whole hand, warming it inside your hand, and massaging it gently by gripping movements. To stimulate the nipples, massage gently around the nipples with a finger tip. Also squeeze the nipples with your fingers, varying the intensity from the very gentle nip to some harder pressure.

THE REGION BETWEEN THE PENIS AND THE ANUS

The visible penis is actually a part of a larger body beginning at the prostate region just in front of the anus, and reaches to the tip of the penis. The urethra also go through this structure. The parts between your legs will engorge when you are sexually exited just as the penis, and when it engorges, the region bulges out between the legs.

Upon mechanical stimulation, this area give intense pleasurable feelings. You can stimulate this area by squeezing it between your fingers. pressing down against the urethra or massaging up an down along the urethra. You should change between gentle and a little harder handling, as these two manners give rise to different types of feelings.

THE NAVEL AND THE BLADDER REGION

The navel is an erotic point, and so is the structures in the middle of the belly between the navel and the penis. This structure contains a groove between the belly muscles. The structures in this groove are very sensous, the so called linea alba. The naval can be stimulated by sticking a finger into it, and by tickling with your finger deep down in the navel.

Also here you should alternate between light, gentle, slow tickling, and harder sharper tickling. This stimulation give sensations that radiate out form the navel to the surroundings, and spreads downwords to the tip of your penis, giving a very funny feeling in your penis. The groove between the navel and the penis, you can stimulate by massaging up and down with the tip of your fingers.

THE BUTTOCKS AND ANAL SURROUNDINGS

The inner side of the buttocks in the natal cleft give rise to deep erotic feelings with a very special intimate valour. Move your fingers up and down between the buttocks from the spine to the opposite end between the legs, and gently massage the inner side of each buttock with your finger tips You can also concentrate your attention to the region deep inside the cleft very near the anus and tickle these most intimate points with your finger tips. Further you can stretch each buttock to the side so that the butt cleft opens, and the rectal opening is also stretched. The result of these manipulations are erotic sensations that radiate to the whole pelvic area, flow deep inside you and rise upwords along your spine.

THE ANUS AND THE OUTER RECTUM

The anal region is in many ways the real central of feelings in a man or boy. By stimulating this area in the proper ways, you can create a process that spread waves of intense feelings of joy, pleasure and ecstasy up through the whole body, partly foreward to the genitals and belly region, and partly along the spine up to the neck. You best stimulate the rectal opening by very gentle circulatory movements with your finger tips.

Alternate between these circulatory movements and the stimulation of the buttock insides. You can also stick a smeared finger into the anal opening and stimulate by gentle movements in and out. By sticking your finger further inside, you can gently massage the inside walls of the anus. By adding some pressure, your stimulation reaches deep into the tissue around the rectum. All these stimulation give rise to profound feelings radiating to the whole body.

THE DEEP PART OF THE RECTUM

The perhaps most intimate and sensitive zone of a man, is the deep part of the rectum. This sone can be reached by gay intercourse or with a dildo or some other long object. When insering something in the anus to stimulate this zone, it is necessary to be very cautious so that the intestinal walls are not hurt. However, this zone is so sensitive that even the most gentle stimulation give an immense depth of feelings, both of physical and psychological kind. You can stimulate this zone by gently and gradually by inserting a thin smeared dildo, and when fully inserted, very gently move it a little in and out, a little around, or press gently to different sides with the dildo. The more you relax, and the longer you do this stimulation, the deeper and more intense will the feelings grow.

THE PROSTATE:

The prostate lays just in front of the anus and the urethra goes through it. This gland produce much of the viscous fluid in the semen. You can stimulate it from the outside by pressing somewhat firmely with your fingers inward just in front of the anus. There is a deepening in this area, just like a litlle vagina. Press your finger into this groove and a little foreward. You can also stimulate the prostate by inserting your finger into the anus and massage the prostate through the front wall of the anus. The massage releases prostate fluid. Feeling the fluid comming through your urethra and dripping out through you pee-hole, add to the physical exitement. Also the prostate have its own sexual feelings, and prostate massage combined with anal stimulation can induce a form of orgasm that has a much deper psycological and ecstatic impact than ordinary penile orgasm.

- About The Author
Knut Holt is a international internet marketer and author with a focus on health items and erotism. At this sites you can find more health information, products to improve erotic life, products to increase sexual pleasure. and natural medicines against many common diseases.
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Lovemaking Secrets: How to Find You Inner Sex Goddess by: Andrea Waggener

2006-11-16T05:21:00.000-08:00

Lovemaking is one of the biggest joys in life. Yet many big beautiful women don’t enjoy this essential part of their relationships to its fullest. Many big beautiful women have major self-confidence issues when it comes to great lovemaking. Their negative body image puts up a big mental roadblock in their path to great sex.

Voluptuous women can enjoy making love to a man without the inhibitions forced on them through negative media and body image. Passionate lovemaking is not the sole province of the skinny.

Great sex is possible regardless of size if you know the lovemaking positions and techniques that will work best for you. Making love as a big beautiful woman isn’t rocket science; it just takes some practice and experimentation – both of which can be lots of fun!

At some time or other we’ve all seen products claiming to be some great sex secret, or heard of someone asserting that they know THE great sex tip. The fact is that having great sex isn’t a mystery. Self-confidence is sexy; and almost no man alive can resist a woman who is ready, willing, and able.

Most sexual relationships ebb and flow in intensity over time, but too often as other concerns intrude, couples find themselves in a sex-starved marriage. This can be the result of many factors, but often body images play a big part. The ideal female body image has changed over the centuries, proving one important fact. There is no one ideal body image. There is only what is popular at the moment.

Building self-esteem is a great cure for negative body image, buy how is that accomplished? First of all, remember that your partner is there with you. It’s a free country, so this must be where he wants to be! That gives you a huge advantage right away.

Now that you have your man at your side, how can you change the usual “sex after marriage” in to high-octane passionate lovemaking?

First of all, you must leave your negative baggage at the boudoir door – or put it out with the trash! Your man is there with you; take advantage of him – literally. What woman doesn’t enjoy being seduced? NONE! Guess what, men enjoy it too. Everyone wants to feel desirable, and that includes your man. Let him know how much you desire him by seducing him for a change. Get yourself and the boudoir ready for an evening of great lovemaking. Making love to a man can help you recognize your seductive powers, and it will make him feel great too. That’s really the greatest lovemaking tip ever!

Next, try out some great sex positions until you find your favorites. You could make a point of trying out one new position every week. Big women have a real advantage when it comes to making love – they’re built for comfort, not speed. And as we all know, speed isn’t the goal in great sex!

Big beautiful women are blessed with soft, cuddly curves. Use those curves when you’re making love. Build self esteem by learning to recognize how much your lover enjoys your curves.

Sex in marriage should be great sex. By paying some extra attention to your man, and making him feel good about himself, you’ll increase his attention toward you. The more great sex you have, the more great sex you’ll have.

The key to making good love is to keep your sense of humor and your sense of adventure. These are the best lovemaking tips and lovemaking techniques you can try. Release your inner BBW sex goddess, and start enjoying some truly passionate lovemaking!

- About The Author
Andrea Rains Waggener & Nancy Anne Eltrich are co-authors of A Big Beautiful Woman’s Guide To Great Sex. They offer more BBW lovemaking tips at http://www.bbwguidetolovemaking.com

Sex is a Good Thing! by: Gwenneth Morgan

2006-11-16T05:14:00.000-08:00

Orgasmic sex between consenting adults provides more benefits to humans than simple shared intimacy. It's also important in maintaining one's physical and mental health.

Numerous studies have shown the beneficial effects of regular orgasms. Sex has been shown to be a great cardiovascular workout and it has been proven to relieve stress, thereby preventing stress related disorders. Regular, satisfying sex may even help you live longer!

On the other hand, sexual frustration, in my opinion, is one of the greatest problems humans face today.

Now, I'm not talking about a guy who's frustrated because his wife has been out of town for a week. I'm talking about 40 year old guys who have never had sex. I'm talking about women who have been so scarred sexually, that they are hoping to get through the rest of their lives without ever having to have sex again. Where does this come from?

Well, let's start by taking a look at history and religion. In many cultures, sex has been labelled "dirty." And it's evident in the way we interact with each other every day that this perception has endured. One of the most obvious instances is the work "fuck." Apparently left over from even more repressive times, the letters are intials describing a stockade offense, "For Unlawful Carnal Knowledge." Today, it has become one of the most negative and widely used words in American English.

Look at high school boys who already have distorted views of sex before they've even participated in the act. We hear things like, "eat me", "bite me", "suck this," "nice girls don't but naughty girls do," and even as they get older, "she's fun, but she's not the kind of girl you want to marry!" How many good hearted and adventurous teenage girls have submitted to the wishes of their beau, only to be shamed, publicly ridiculed or abandoned?

Then boys become men. They get married to "nice girls" and spend the rest of their lives wishing their wives were more adventurous in bed. How many husbands hassle and harrangue their wives to give them what they need (often without thinking of their wife's needs) until she is fed up and no longer interested at all? Our whole concept of sex has become so twisted that many actually scorn its healthful and bonding effects because it has become so tangled up with pain.

And don't forget the contribution of acute sexual frustration to crime. Every sexual offense has its roots in sexual pain and frustration or misconceptions about sex. If sex offenders were capable of having loving, responsible, adult relationships, there would be no need for them to commit such crimes as rape and molestation.

What can we do?

First, let's get it straight that sex is not "dirty." It is a perfectly normal biological function and ignoring the urge won't make it go away. This is simply the way we are designed. If we truly have respect for some kind of all powerful Creator, then it's time we honor the fact that He/She/It made us the way we are. The Human body is a beautiful thing and it's wrong for us to attach such negative connotations to any aspect of our natural selves in favor of some Human conception of how we "should" be.

We must learn to embrace our sexuality. Just because you might have had a bad experience in the past does not mean you're incapable of having a good sexual experience. If your current sex life is not all that you'd like it to be, talk to your partner about what you'd like and work together to break through inhibitions. If your partner is too demanding or not open to such discussion, I suggest you think about finding another partner.

Teach our children. Studies show that children who grow up in households where the parents are more open about their bodies, as opposed to always hiding naked bodies behind closed doors, are actually better adjusted as adults. Children who get unconscious signals that the naked body is shameful or disgusting end up with many more personal hang ups and inhibitions resulting in lower self esteem which only makes it harder to enjoy a healthy sex life.

And don't be afraid to talk to children about sex. It certainly encompasses far more than "where do babies come from." Considering the impact sex, or lack of sex, has on one's life, it seems pretty silly to make everyone figure it all out for themselves by trial and error. Don't shrink away from opportunities to talk to your children about what you've learned when it comes to choosing a partner and maintaining a relationship. Even if you don't feel very successful, they can benefit from your openness and experience.

Guys, apply yourselves and learn how to get laid. Don't say stupid stuff that only serves to increase resistance to sex. You want sex. Don't cut off your nose to spite your face by sending messages that what you really want is disgusting or loathesome. And, don't let yourself get to a point where you are so desperate for sex it's all you can think about. It shows. We've all seen an unneutered dog that tries to hump the leg of everyone that comes along; it's not attractive and it won't help you reach your goal. Don't be afraid to take matters into your own hands periodically to release excess tension so you can present the real you to prospective partners.

And remember, sex is a two way street. Men wouldn't want sex all the time if they rarely ever had a real orgasm and it's the same for women. I know women who have never had an honest to goodness, shuddering, mind blowing, toe curling orgasm! Why, because their partners were far more concerned about their own pleasure instead of focusing on nuturing a long lasting sexual relationship. If all you care about is yourself, then go and pay someone to take care of your needs. Legal and regulated prostitution could go a long way to alleviating the overwhelming amount of sexual tension and resulting crime in our society.

Imagine a world where there is no sexual tension. Hold on, I'm not talking about a world where people run around naked having sex everywhere with anyone who happens to come along. I'm talking about a world where people are happy and comfortable with their bodies and sex. Where people are not so desperate for physical affection that they are actually more attractive. A world where people feel safe and willing to open themselves up to all the beneficial effects of sex. It's a tall order, I know. We've never had such a society, but it's worth it to try.

- About The Author
Gwenneth Morgan is a 40ish, Pagan wife, mother and businesswoman who is totally fed up with the Old Way. With the belief that humans have evolved to a point where we can, as a group, embrace the Light, she has found the courage to openly share her views and encourage others to do the same. Visit her web site to learn more. http://www.gwennethmorgan.com.

Better Sex Tips for Couples by: Leah Holden

2006-11-16T04:55:00.000-08:00

One recent survey in America concluded that approximately 50% of new marriage will end in divorce. The same survey also indicated that the trend is on the rise.

This is a sad truth and they are many reasons which contribute to a marital split, for example, lack of trust, lack of communication, lack of a satisfying sex life etc.

In this article, I am going to reveal some better sex tips for couples. Sex is one of the key elements to help maintain a strong and sustainable love life. It helps to build a strong bond between the couples and makes both of them come closer together. Every couple needs sex for pleasure. It is necessary that all couples maintain their tempo of having sex throughout their married life. Having regular sex has proved to keep the relationship between the couples healthy and also helps to keep the fights at bay. How frequent should a couple have sex? The answer is depends, some couples enjoy having sex once a week, others three times a week and there are other couples who have sex everyday. At the end of the day, it all comes down to what feels right and satisfying for the particular couple.

In order to have better sex, both partners should take active participation in the sexual act. You should know your partner's hot buttons and know when to press it! You should not just be a spectator to the sexual act. In the end, there are chances that you and your partner will not be satisfied and you will be frustrated. A trick to overcome this is to always remember the best sex that both of you had and your only duty is to deliver a sexual performance which surpass the last best experience. This is called continuous sexual improvement and a valuable trick to sustain a life long relationship.

Better sex for couples also includes being confident in the sexual act. You should also look, smell and feel good. No one would like to have sex with a person who has bad breath and whose body gives a foul order.

Sex can be performed anywhere. It is not necessary to have sex in the bedroom. Sex can be performed on the sofa, in the basement,under the stairs, in the car, in the garden shade, on the beach etc. The location and whereabout is only limited to your own imagination and creativity.

To enjoy better sex, both partners should have the same amount of passion between each other. Sex does not start under the sheets. It can start during the day like giving your partner a passionate kiss when he leaves for office or holding each other's hands in the park.

You should never plan the whole sexual act in advance but keep it spontaneous. The moves can change according to the situation. It is fine if you plan the first few moves in advance though to warm up the atmosphere.

Another very important tip for having better sex is foreplay. It is absolutely essential before you get into the actual act of making love. This is because foreplay breaks the ice and also creates a lot of excitement in you and your partner and makes you ready for the final act.

You can also create a romantic environment in your bedroom by lighting exotic candles, keeping the room dimly lit and decorating the room with flowers. This proves to be a perfect setting for your sexual act.

In the end, remember to tell your partner how exciting and pleasurable the whole sexual experience was and you would definitely love to do it more often.

- About The Author
Leah Holden is The "Better Sex Expert". Leah's mission is sharing her vast array of sexual knowledge with individuals and couples. To spice up your sex life, please visit Leah's blog, http://better--sex.blogspot.com

Reignite Your Sex Life by: Udo Vieth

2006-11-15T06:09:00.000-08:00

The tempo of modern living can seem to play havoc with our sexual relationships. There are always reasons to put everything else before our sexual gratification. However, the choice is yours.

Do you remember the passion and sexual excitement that got you into the relationship in the first place? That is what life and living is actually all about. Temporary diminishment of sexual desire can happen in any relationship. Illness, relocation, job loss or financial setbacks, can adversely affect our desire from time to time. External circumstances can and do affect the fire. Now a temporary break may actually be a good thing, as this can lead to renewed discovery of one another. The problem arises when the situation is prolonged. Now the lack of sexual desire or activity can actually cause distress in the relationship and lead to unhappiness in both partners and breakdowns. This needs to be addressed to avoid causing irreparable damage destroying the relationship.

Here are some simple ways to get your mojo working again.

Stop fighting!

Resolve any issues that may be stopping you from actually communicating and being a loving couple. Clear out the trash so to speak. Are there unresolved issues that you and your partner are avoiding? Confront these and clear them out. Lingering thoughts will lead to unhappiness and avoidance of intimacy on all levels. How do you think you will connect at a physical level, if you aren't even communicating? Clear the slate so to speak.

Make intimate contact a necessity.

You need to prioritize being close, just as an item on your to do list. pick up the laundry, be intimate, etc. We tend too put mundane activities ahead of our needs all too often. You need to live, not just exist. To live, you need to do certain enjoyable things. Sex is amongst thaoose, so prioritise it together with other fulfilling activities. Don't just assume it will happen, make it happen. This need not be inflexible, but let it happen more often than not. When you push sex aside your relationship will become like any other mundane existence. Watch out for this, don't let it happen. The more you have sex, the more you will want it. Let the snowball effect carry you in the right direction.

Are you OK?

Make sure that there aren't any physical reasons not to have sex. Male impotence, or erectile dysfunction, is very prevalent amongst highly stressed breadwinners. Attack the cause, reduce the stress, and if need be, use some of the available medication and seek medical assistance. This aspect of your health is as important as any other for the quality of your life. Women may have discomfort during intercourse for a variety of reasons. Again, seek assistance, resolve the physical issues. Make sure that there are no physical problems. Sometimes hormonal imbalances occurr, resulting in reduced drive, identify and remedy these. Modern medicine is very aware and capable of helping in these situations, there is no need for embarrassment, the issues are to widespread, for you too think that you are the only one with this type of problem. Sort it out.

Are you fulfilled?

A common situation causing disinterest, or even anger or resentment, is an unfulfilling sexual relationship. If both partners needs are not being met, one will always feel like a victim. This cannot enable a mutually satisfying sexual relationship. If our needs are not being met, talk to your partner. Work on the situation together. An understanding of the situation is the first step to resolving the issue. In many cases, just letting your partner know what you like is enough to make all the difference. In very few situations is it imposible to find a mutually acceptable compromise to satisfy both partners

Where's the romance?

Romance is what led to sex in the first place. Setting the right mood, creating romantic surroundings, can make all the difference. Create a little love nest. This can be a very intimate place, or an intimate time. Run a bath for your partner, put up some candles, add some scented bathoil, and voila you don't know what will happen. On a more practical note, pack the kids off to grandma for the night, order in some exotic take-away, put a candle on the table, and refuse to let her do any housework. Watch the sparks fly. There are a myriad of ways to alter the mundane, and create situations tha timmediatrely up the chances of a romantic enjoyable encounter. You just need to do it.

Up for a dirty weekend?

A change is as good as a holiday they say. In the romance stakes, a change of scenery can work wonders. It doesn't have to be an exotic island location (although that would be nice). Get out of the rut. Get out and see something different, and it will bring about different thoughts and attitudes to your sexual perception as well.

Get wild.

Sex in an elevator, with the risk of being caught at any time, could turn on some partners to the extent.

- About The Author
Who is Udo Vieth? He is fast becoming an expert on love, relationship, romance, as well as being a qualified EFT and Biofeedback practitioner. He has a website: www.Toprelationships.com with information regarding all aspects of relationships. info@toprelationships.com

New, Sexy Options In Lingerie For Plus Size Women by: Chirsty Diaz

2006-11-15T06:05:00.000-08:00

Full-figured, curvaceous women are no longer forced to wear standard issue cotton briefs and boring, flannel nightgowns. There are many new choices in lingerie for plus size women. Whether you are a size 14 or a 3X, you can find lace, satin, even leather intimate wear. If looking voluptuous and romantic is important to you, a few special pieces of lingerie in plus size might be just how to do it.

A sexy bra and panty set is a wonderful way to flaunt your luscious curves. Some of the most seductive styles push up your bust and coyly cover your other assets. Look for lace detailing, embellishments, and vibrant colors.

A flowing and sheer nightgown or baby doll set is another option for lingerie in plus size that you may want to consider. You can certainly play up your sensuality in pink chiffon or black lace night wear that will keep your loved one's eyes focused on you.

If you lean toward the exotic and adventurous, leather corsets, mesh bodysuits, or see-through teddies might be just your thing. Go ahead and experiment with all of the different varieties of fun lingerie.

Many retail stores carry large selections of lingerie for full-figured women. And if shopping from the privacy of your home is your preference, there are many online stores that specialize in plus size lingerie. Before you purchase lingerie from any retailer, make sure that you fully understand their return policy, in case something doesn't fit properly. Some stores happily return unworn merchandise, while others have stricter policies.

What is wonderful about lingerie is that it's such a personal and creative way to express your beauty, femininity, and sensuality. Regardless if you have a drawer full of perfectly good underwear and bras, you can still have those special pieces that you want to share with your loved one during those special moments. Or, perhaps you simply want to wear a sexy bra under your every day clothes. Why not?

Lingerie might not be as essential as a winter coat or pair of jeans, but it is worth the splurge. A few sexy items can add that little bit of spice to your life that might be in short supply. So, the next time you're in the mood for a little romance, slip into something a little sexy and show off those wonderful curves.

- About The Author
Chirsty Diaz is a fashion advisor for plus size women. She has been helping women of all sizes look their absolute best while helping them find fantastic deals on plus size clothing. For the hottest tips, secrets and additonal articles , not to mention some great, plus size deals visit http://www.curvy-lady.com.

Sex Survey Reveals Kinky Tastes by: Lance Russell

2006-11-15T05:58:00.000-08:00

A recent survey undertaken by PleasureMeNow.com sex toys reveals people’s favorite toys in the bedroom. The research also found many Valentines may receive a sex toy wrapped in red this Valentine’s Day.

The survey revealed 74% of both women and men would “love” to receive a sex toy as a gift. The other 26% thought it sounded fun, and no one in the survey found the idea objectionable.

The survey established that, of those participating in the survey, 24% already owned 1 or 2 toys, 56% owned 3-6, 11% owned “Gobs” of toys and 9% don’t currently own a sex toy.

Regarding the question “What is your favorite sex toy?” respondents had a fill-in-the-blank response, not a multiple-choice answer. They wrote in the following choices:
17% Rabbit Vibrator
11% Glass Dildo
10% Vibrator (Non-Specified Type)
8% Love all sex toys
7% Sex Swing
7% Strap On Dildo
6% Bullet Vibrator
5% Dildo
4% Cock Ring & Vibrating Cock Ring
4% Anal plug or bead
3% Cyberskin Sex Toy
20% other toys or none yet

“We were surprised by several of the results,” said Ron Jacks, partner at PleasureMeNow.com. “One result that amazed us, even though our survey was taken on our adult toy website, was that everyone found receiving a sex toy as an appealing gift. Another result that raised several eyebrows here was how many straight men indicated their favorite sex toy was not for use on themselves but rather for use on the women in their life. Of the total men surveyed, 16% indicated their favorite toy was using a vibrator on their significant other with another 7% suggesting a glass dildo.”

618 people participated in the survey. 10% of the women and 7% of men described themselves as bisexual, and 4% of people indicated they were gay.

For more information on this sexual survey, contact Lance Russell: lance@pleasuremenow.com; call 1-858-428-0306. PleasureMeNow.com is a top adult toy site offering the latest breakthroughs in pleasure technology.

- About The Author
Lance Russell is the author of the book "Recipes for Better Sex: 75 Delicious Ways to Spice Up Your Love Life." He has lectured on human sexuality at several California universities. In addition, he is co-owner of the sex toy store www.PleasureMeNow.com.

Kickstart Your Sex Life Today! by: Sarah Brindisi

2006-11-15T05:54:00.000-08:00

Has your sex life been a bit neglected lately? Its not like you don't care but well, it's just finding the time and energy. It seems impossible some days because there's work and cleaning and working out and grocery shopping and cooking dinner, laundry, kids, family commitments, friends, ironing! When you do get horizontal you pass out within minutes. Or you're not in the mood. Or you just can't be bothered. Soon enough a month has passed and you can't remember the last time you had sex. And when was the last time you kissed your partner and I mean really kissed them, not just a polite peck?

Or maybe you've just fallen into a rut. You have sex in the same place at roughly the same time each week and do the same things. Routine is good for things like brushing your teeth but it shouldn't come into your sex life when variety and excitement are crucial elements in making it fulfilling.

If this sounds like you and you want to kickstart your sex life back into well, life, then read on.

1. Be spontaneous

The element of surprise can be very seductive. Take a shower together, surprise your partner with a long passionate kiss when they are expecting to just graze lips, buy some new lingerie and wear it.

2. Get healthy

Eating well and regular exercise put you in better touch with your body and that inner healthy glow not only makes you look more attractive but gives you heaps of energy and makes you feel more vibrant and alive.

3. Be affectionate

If you haven't had sex for awhile then it may be better to build up slowly to get back into the groove. Instead of trying to go from a standing start to racing speed, ease your way back into the physical by touching when you can and by being considerate with each other. Touch when you talk. Stop to kiss when you walk past each other in the hallway. Trail your finger along their shoulder as they sit reading a magazine. Snuggle on the couch in front of your favorite movie.

4. Be sensual

Give your partner a peppermint foot bath when they get home from a busy day. Massage their hands, scalp, back - wherever takes your fancy (if you don't know how to massage, don't think about it, just do what feels good). Or try a lighter touch by using a feather or silk scarve to trail along the length of your partner.

5. Be encouraging when your partner does something you like

Even if you've been together a long time your partner doesn't always know what you like and even if they do it doesn't hurt to tell them once in awhile. Say what you like and why you like it, if they have more information you never know what they may come up with to please you.

6. Read your partner an erotic bedtime story

The mind is crucial in any attempt to resuscitate your sex life. It needs to be turned on first and the body will follow. There is some great erotic fiction around or you could try Nancy Friday for stories about other people's sexual fantasies.

7. Have fun

When was the last time you laughed together? Put on your favourite track and dance. Or buy the music that was popular when you first got together and play that for a trip down memory lane over dinner. Take a midnight dip.

8. Write a sexy letter

If you can't tell your partner what you really want them to do to you, then writing it down is a great alternative. It lets you be as specific as you like without feeling like your face is going to turn tomato red and gives your partner time to process what you've said and get into the mood (if you need help putting your letter together try visiting www.loveyouletters.com for easy-to-us love templates).

9. Experiment

Learn a new technique together. Try a romantic weekend away. Or you could try a sex toy from one of the many on offer. If you always have sex lying down then try standing or sitting. If you're always on top then try switching things around.

10. Focus on the now

When you do get down to it, it is crucial that you focus on exactly what it is you are doing. To do this you must stop the chatter within your own head. Don't worry that you forgot to pick up the drycleaning, or how you need to call your mother about her birthday, or the fact that you're out of cereal. Leave all that stuff to later. Much later. Chances are it won't seem nearly so important once you're done.

- About The Author
Sarah Brindisi has done the hard work of ploughing through a whole pile of erotic fiction so that you can save time hunting for great erotic fiction to read aloud to your partner or enjoy on your own. For details: http://www.esensualexpress.com.

9 Irresistible Flirting Tips – How To Sizzle and Dazzle the Opposite Sex by: Joshua Goh

2006-11-15T05:49:00.000-08:00

You don't have to be a movie star look-alike to sizzle and dazzle the opposite sex. All you need is a genuine sweet looking smile plus a few irresistible flirting tips.

1. For women, we preen or groom ourselves subconsciously when we are attracted to someone – by smoothing down our hair or clothes, checking our lipstick, or straightening a tie. Combine your grooming gesture with a smile and a gaze. You can also toss your hair to one side – a combination 1-2 punch of preening and a flash of neck.

2. A genuine, friendly smile is you’re most powerful. Behavior experts agree that a smile makes you more attractive and approachable. Guys, if a woman lock eyes and smiles with you three or more times in an evening, you have been given an unmistakably clear signal that she's interested. Make your move, if you don't, somebody else will.

3. Gaze the eyes with the person you're flirting with for a full five to six seconds, smile and then drop your fix. Do this at least three times in a ten to fifteen-minute period. Your target needs to know you are flirting with him; making eye contact is a universal signal of openness.

4. One of the more successful flirting techniques a woman can employ is to expose her neck. A head tilt, the classic hair flip, or the over-the-shoulder glance attracts men’s attention, exposes your neck, and gives you the opportunity to lock eyes. The over-the-shoulder move is extra-effective because it's sexy and sends a signal to your target that they are worth a second look.

5. Members of both sexes are subconsciously attracted to red, moist lips because they signal youth, sex and fertility. Red also increases a man's heart rate. How to capitalize on it? Wearing a red lipstick gives women’s lips not only a youthful color but also a more obvious smile and whiter teeth. Using a super-shiny lip gloss makes your lips look moist and kissable. Men or women should lick their lips subtly (you don't want to look like you're trying out for a porno flick) or bite the lower lip – both are extremely effective flirting behaviors.

6. Men should stand tall with the shoulders pulled back and squared; women are biologically attracted to more dominant men. Feel free to take up some space.

7. For women, crossing and uncrossing their legs is a surefire flirting technique, especially if you're wearing high heels. A woman crossing her legs appears seductive to men and it makes them desire to see more. Slipping the heel out of your shoe and dangling it on your toes is another trick. The arch of a foot sends a sexual message and mimics a woman's curves, and makes a man's heart race.

8. Once you and your flirting target start talking, the next step is to intensify the attraction. How? Smile and maintain eye contact, focus all of your attention on what they say. No one is more attractive than someone who gives you an undivided attention. Employ the nod and head tilt techniques. Smiling and laughing are crucial at this point – it the quickly puts the other person at ease. Making low-level contact by brushing the shoulder or elbow is another effective flirting technique.

9. People mirror each other’s body language – gestures, voice volume, posture, etc when they are attracted. Very subtly mirror your flirting target's behavior – if she leans forward, lean forward; if he scratches his head, scratch your head. When you mirror someone's behavior, they'll begin to feel, think and believe as though the two of you are connected.

This article may be re-published with appropriate attribution to the author including name and website @ Copyright.

- About The Author
Joshua Goh is dating & relationship expert, prolific writer and avid internet marketer. Currently runs Cupidwave.com, which is blazingly becoming one of the highly sought-after online dating review site. He is also passionate about human peak performance, golf, fitness and travelling. For more information on up-to-date dating reviews and litle tips & tricks, please visit http://www.cupidwave.com.

Some Simple Tantric Yoga Exercises to Improve the General Health and Sexual Abilities by: Knut Holt

2006-11-15T05:41:00.000-08:00

Here are some exercises for men and women for the pelvic region and for the breathing apparatus - two body zones of great importance for the general health, but that are generally disregarded in standard training regimes.

A healthy pelvic area is of great importance for the general well-being. The same is true about a healthy respiratory tract and breathing apparatus.

Here are presented three poses and three breathing exercises that have the following effects when done together in a series:

-They stimulate the physiological functions of the genital and anal area.

-They correct muscle weakness and anatomical problems of the anal and genital region.

-They increase the sexual drive and abilities.

-They produce a stimulating response that spreads upwards along the spine and revitalizes the whole body.

-They stimulate the physiological functions of the respiratory tract and help against infections in the airways.

-The exercises are very good to start each day with, or to do before going to bed in the night.
POSE 1

Stand on your hands and knees upon the floor.

Kneel backward so that your buttocks go backward and down towards your feet and stretch your arms foreword.

Breathe out and then take a deep breathe in, filling your lungs totally with air. Hold your breath with the air inside.

Squeeze your anal muscles and pull your anal opening as deeply inward as you can. However do not strain when squeezing. This exercise shall not be exhausting. Relax your anal muscles completely again.

Repeat the squeezing and relaxing 3-5 times, but not so long that you go out of oxygen in your body.

Empty your lungs. Rise up on your hands and knees again. Relax a while in this position and then you can repeat the exercise if you wish.

POSE 2

Lie on your back upon a carpet on the floor with your arms along your sides and relax.

Breathe out.

Then breathe inn deeply while relaxing all the muscles you do not need for the breathing.

Then breathe out. When breathing out, squeeze your anal muscles and pull your anal opening as deeply inward as you can. However do not strain when squeezing. This exercise shall not be exhausting.

After having breathed out, relax your anal muscles again.

Repeat the breathing in and breathing out while squeezing 3-8 times, but not some much that you get exhausted.

Then relax again.

POSE 3

Lie on your back upon a carpet on the floor.

Breathe out completely.

Swing your arms in an arch over your head and down to the floor over your head so that your whole body is stretched from top to toe. When swinging your arms, take a deep breath filling your lungs totally with air.

Hold your breath with the air inside.

Squeeze your anal muscles and pull your anal opening as deeply inward as you can. However do not strain when squeezing. This exercise shall not be exhausting. Relax your anal muscles completely again.

Repeat the squeezing and relaxing 3-5 times.

Swing your arms back at the same time as you empty your lungs. Relax some while and then you can repeat the exercise if you wish.

BREATHING EXERCISE 1

Sit upon a pillow on the floor with your legs crossed and the back straight.

Empty your lungs completely.

Breath in counting to 4. When breathing in, try to do it in three stages that proceed smoothly into each other:

Use first your diaphragm so that your stomach moves out. Then fill further by using your chest muscles. And then complete the filling by using the muscles around your shoulders.

Hold your breath counting to 16.

Then breath out counting to 8. When breathing out, try to do it in three stages that proceed smoothly into each other: Use first your diaphragm so that your stomach moves in. Then empty further by using your chest muscles. And then complete emptying by using the muscles around your shoulders.

BREATHING EXERCISE 2

Sit upon a pillow on the floor with your legs crossed and your back straight. Take 10 rapid deep breathes in and out after another, but not so rapid that you get strained or breath incompletely.

When breathing in, try to do it in three stages that proceed smoothly into each other: Use first your diaphragm so that your stomach moves out. Then fill further by using your chest muscles. And then complete the filling by using the muscles around your shoulders.

When breathing out, try to do it in three stages that proceed smoothly into each other: Use first your diaphragm so that your stomach moves in. Then empty further by using your chest muscles. And then complete emptying by using the muscles around your shoulders.

After the last in-breath , hold your breath with your lungs filled counting to 10.

Then breath out.

BREATHING EXERCISE 3

Sit upon a pillow on the floor with your legs crossed and your back straight.

Empty your lungs completely.

Close your left nostril with the fingers of one of your hands. Breath in through your right nostril counting to 4.

When breathing in, try to do it in three stages that proceed smoothly into each other: Use first your diaphragm so that your stomach moves out. Then fill further by using your chest muscles and then complete the filling by using the muscles around your shoulders.

Hold your breath counting to 16.

Then close your right nostril with your fingers.

Then breath out through your left nostril counting to 8.

When breathing out, try to do it in three stages that proceed smoothly into each other: Use first your diaphragm so that your stomach moves in. Then empty further by using your chest muscles. And then complete emptying by using the muscles around your shoulders. When you have breathed out, repeat the exercise, but this time begin by closing your right nostril first.

RELAXING AT THE END OF THE SERIES

When the series is done, then lie down upon a carpet on the floor and relax for 2-5 minutes. This relaxation will increase the effects of the exercises and make you recover if the exercises have made you tired.

Concentrate upon relaxing your legs first, then your lover body, then your upper body, then your arms and shoulders, and at last your head and face. When the whole body is relaxed, try not to think about anything, and relax your whole body even further. Then lie some time in this relaxed state without thinking about anything.

- About The Author
Knut Holt is an internet consultant and marketer focusing on health items. TO FIND natural medicines against common diseases, for example: Over-weight, acne, eczema, hypothyroidism, fatigue, depression, hemorrhoids, joint pain, hypertension, high cholesterol, circulatory problems, digestive ailments, allergies, menstrual problems, respiratory diseases and more, PLEASE VISIT:---- http://www.abicana.com
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How Healthy Sex Prevents Illness by: Ruby Boyd

2006-11-15T05:36:00.000-08:00

There are many positive correlations between love, sex and health. Being so, it has produced many questions.....

Have you wondered if an active sex life can truly alleviate pain?

Do sexually active people have fewer colds and bouts of flu?

Is it true that married people live longer than single or divorced people?

Can an active sex life help prevent disease and illnesses by strengthening our immune system?
I have these answers and more, read on....

An active sex life is both stimulating and rejuvenating to the glandular system. When we make love the pituitary gland, the thyroid gland, the adrenal glands, the prostate and testes in men, and the ovaries in women are thoroughly exercised. The net result is that people in love look and feel better about themselves.

Activation of the sex center in the brain has health effects on other brain centers. Every cell in the body gets this message and is strengthened by it.

An active sex life strengthens our immune system. Scientists have compared the nerve endings of happy, loving and sexually-fulfilled people with unhappy and sexually-unfulfilled people.

Apparently, large numbers of immune-system cells were gathered near the nerve endings in the "happy" people. A similar microscopic exam of "unhappy" and depressed persons showed no such gathering of immune- system cells.

Scientists theorized that the nerve endings in the "happy" group were releasing neurotransmitters. These are chemicals, like adrenalin and acetylcholine, that facilitate the transmission of nerve messages.

Scientists concluded that these neurotransmitters could attract, feed, and strengthen the various immune-system cells. During sex, the heart beats twice as fast, pumping blood to the pelvis, breasts, nipples, and surface of the skin, helping get rid of toxins and bringing in nutrients.

We also breath twice as fast, bringing in more oxygen. Muscles are tensed and relaxed, alternatively. Of course, not much good is realized by those who rush through lovemaking in ten minutes or less. But for those who spend a leisurely hour or two, the benefits can be considerable.

You, and you alone can determine the success or failure of your sex and love life; your physical, mental and spiritual health; and almost every other aspect of your life.

- About The Author
Ruby Boyd's website offers information how alternative medicine, diet-nutrition prevents cancer and disease. Visit http://www.a1-natural-health-and-beauty.com/Womens-Sexual-Health.html for information on how to achieve health and beauty fitness goals naturally.

Antioxidants Increase Sexual Pleasure by: Chris Robertson

2006-11-15T05:25:00.000-08:00

We often read or hear news reports about antioxidants and how they can improve our health, yet we rarely hear about the role they play in the pleasure we obtain from sex and intimacy.

To understand antioxidants and the ways they can enhance genital health, we first need to understand the role that free radicals play in damaging our cells. In essence, free radicals are the toxic byproducts of our metabolism. Free radical production can increase as a result of the foods we eat (as is the case with charbroiled meat) or the air we breathe (as is the case with second hand smoke).

Using several enzyme-based systems, our body does its best to combat free radicals. When our body's defenses fail, though, free radicals cause individual cells to become damaged or die. If left unchecked, free radicals cause tissue damage, premature aging, and loss of cellular function. In other words, our cells become oxidized, much in the same way that rust forms on iron when it is exposed to air and water.

Antioxidants help to combat free radical damage by shoring up the body's enzyme-based systems. Vitamins C and E are popular antioxidants, as are the polyphenols found in plants and in certain foods and beverages, such as cocoa, red wine, green tea, and ginseng.

Antioxidants can also improve sexual pleasure and intimacy. Women who are perimenopausal, menopausal, or post-menopausal - along with women who use oral contraceptives - can experience genital oxidative stress, which can result in vaginal dryness and a lack of sexual desire. In a sense, antioxidants are an aphrodisiac, in that they preserve the nitric oxide needed to dilate blood vessels in genital tissues, which in turn causes sexual arousal.

Eating or drinking foods and beverages with antioxidant properties is sure to improve your overall feeling of well-being, but antioxidants delivered in the form of a lubricant to sensitive genital skin can have a positive impact on sexual pleasure and intimacy. When organic antioxidants penetrate the skin, they energize nerve endings.

Genital skin care should be an ongoing priority. When looking for an antioxidant to promote genital health, it is important to find one that is water-free and non-oily. Instead, it should be polymer-based and have a non-sticky feeling. In addition, it should be a product that can be used on a daily basis.

- About The Author
Chris Robertson is a published author of Majon International. Majon International is one of the worlds MOST popular internet marketing and internet advertising companies on the web. Visit their main business resource web site at: http://www.majon.com. To learn more about subjects like antioxidant please visit the web site at: http://www.skiniks.net. For more information and informative related articles and links about this subject matter and content, please visit Majon's Health and Beauty directory: http://www.majon.com/directory/Health_and_Beauty

Good Nutrition Needed for Good Sex by: Ruby Boyd

2006-11-15T05:20:00.000-08:00

Most sex problems include loss of sex drive, lack of sex interest (which may differ from the preceding), impotence, premature climax, sterility, damage to the pelvic organs (which may inhibit pleasure and encourage infections), inherent weaknesses in the sex system, diet- or lifestyle-related fatigue, and various other problems.

Psychological sex problems fall into a special category.

But good diet and exercise are necessary even when counselling is the primary means of correction.

Some problems may be primarily rooted in chemical or glandular imbalance and may be completely corrected by diet and exercise.

When the food we eat lacks essential vitamins, minerals, enzymes, and other nutrients, we become undernourished and subject to disease.

Likewise, sexual problems, whether physical or mental, result from deficiencies--in knowledge, in attitude, in diet, in lifestyle. Once we correct the deficiency, the problem takes care of itself.

This is Nature's way.

Our bodies are made of food chemicals, and the energy we use is fueled by food chemicals.
When some of these chemicals are lacking, certain parts of our bodies may be incomplete, so they cannot perform the functions they were designed to perform.

Since we get the chemicals we need from foods, we have to have a variety of whole, pure, and natural foods to meet all the chemical needs of the body.

We have to eat right, or our bodies will not work correctly.

Our sex lives depend on the structural integrity of several glands, organs, and tissues of the body as well as on the availability of sufficient energy to perform at its best.

Each of these parts of the sex system requires constant replenishing of the nutrients it requires.
While the brain, nerves, and glands are fed by the same foods, different tissues require different foods to function at peak efficiency.

Thus, a variety of nutrients needed by different tissues requires a variety of foods to supply those nutrients.

But suppose we were not getting the right foods to produce the sex hormones our bodies needed? We would be in serious trouble as far as our sex lives were concerned.

If you want to save your love life and make it more enjoyable, you need to evaluate the food and drink that have become part of your lifestyle.

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention suggests that adults eat a healthy breakfast, drink 100 percent fruit juice and load their diets with fruits and vegetables.

Researchers at the U.S. Department of Agriculture have found that the mineral boron is vital for hormone production and sexual function. boron can be found in dark green leafy vegetables, fruits(not citrus), nuts and legumes.

For a romantic twist, the caring couple can prepare their nutritious meals together; not only will you boost your energy, but for many, the act of food preparation itself can be a bonding experience.

You can kick it up a notch by using aphrodisiac spices like clove, vanilla, ginger and saffron in your dishes.

Even the healthiest of meals cannot provide all of the 45-plus nutrients that are needed in your diet to maintain good health.

These essential nutrients are divided into six categories--proteins, carbohydrates, fats, vitamins, minerals and water.

Even marginal deficiencies of one or more nutrients can interfere with your good health.
Use as few drugs as possible. Ask your doctor if any of the prescription drugs you have to take will affect your sex life.

Cut out or cut down on the use of alcohol, cigarettes, and coffee. As much as possible, avoid sugary foods and drinks and fried, fatty foods. Cut back on milk and wheat products.

Substitute herbal teas for coffee and regular teas, juices for commercial soft drinks. If you must use sweetener, use a little honey.

As adults, we must realize that good health is earned. It is something we have to work for.
We can have a wonderful love life and wonderful sexual activity, but the two must be built on a foundation of right living. We need to learn our historical lessons and resolve to eat foods as whole, pure, and natural as we can find them.

Sometimes the flame of love just dies, because we aren't eating right. The sex drive won't run without the right fuel.

- About The Author
Ruby Boyd's website offers information on achieving Natural Health, Natural Beauty using natural, drug-free methods. Visit http://www.a1-natural-health-and-beauty.com for information on how to achieve health and beauty fitness goals naturally.

Keep The Flame Burning Hot With Sexy Adult Costumes by: Dave Fisher

2006-11-15T05:14:00.000-08:00

Relationship counselors and self-help books invariably have this common advice for people to keep the passion going in a relationship: spend quality time and have fun together.

Having fun together means breaking a certain monotony that may have inadvertently crept in, a regrettable consequence of unknowingly taking one another for granted. After all, with time, both partners believe that they understand one another perfectly. Little do we realize that it is underestimating the complexity of human nature.

The million dollar question then is- what do we do to avoid frigidity, staleness and boring predictability from creeping in? There are several simple things one can do but for now, let’s consider the visual and mental aspects, specifically what sexy costumes can do to add some spice and excitement into life.

Some people say, and correctly so, that we feel what we wear. Wearing something beautiful and comfortable shows on a person’s body language. Similarly, wearing a sexy costume helps exude the latent sexuality in an individual. These costumes catalyze the transformation from a school girl to a naughty lady nurse, a sexy French maid or even a wild feline looking for some fun. Or dress up as police office or an attractive secret agent (remember a certain James Bond?) to get that exhilarating feeling of being in control. Better still, how about wearing the costume of a sexy genie, with the power to grant a partner’s wishes?

Role playing with sexy costumes has a significant stimulating effect on the mind and body; no wonder then that it is a topic often discussed in psychology clinics as much as in the private confines of a bedroom. Costumes are proven to help people shed their inhibitions and express themselves better, giving vent to their innate emotions and fantasies. They provide the much-needed variety and the element of surprise that can fuel the fire and passion. Costumes available today are reflection of the creativity that be brought into play in one’s daily lives. If one is keen to spark some excitement and is willing to be bold, beautiful and adventurous, then a carefully selected sexy adult costume that one is most comfortable in, will certainly do the trick.

Equally importantly, the beauty of indulging oneself in these myriad sexy costumes that are available today is that not only do they serve their purpose of lighting up the chemistry between partners or making people more attractive to one another but also enable people to have a laugh together. Now isn’t that what having fun together is all about?

- About The Author
Dave Fisher is President of Eastern Toys (http://www.easterntoys.com), a top online retailer of all kinds of Halloween costumes. Check out this comprehensive selection of sexy adult costumes (http://www.easterntoys.com/Sexy_Adult_Costumes_s/20.htm) to add some more zing into life.

Sexy Plus Size Lingerie Will Make You Look More Tempting And Send Your Partner's Heart Racing! by: Kalwant Rana

2006-11-15T05:10:00.000-08:00

If you are one of those women who has a voluptuously sexy body, you'll know how hard it is to find the right clothes for you. Even harder than finding the right clothes is finding sexy plus size lingerie.

In the past, the only options for women who couldn't fit into 'so called normal' sized lingerie had to either slim down or simply do without any lingerie. Well, the great news is, those days are long gone.

Help Is At Hand!

With the advent of sexy plus size lingerie and the Internet, you'll be able to find everything you need at the click of a mouse.

When most people think lingerie, they think Victoria Secret's models or Naomi Campbell or some other such ridiculously thin supermodel.

To make matters worse, the demands of consumerism mean that corporations and so-called 'fashion gurus' have modeled their campaigns to feature unnaturally skinny women, thus portraying them as being 'sexy'.

The real truth is just the opposite. The lingerie that fits them would fit a miniscule percentage of women in the world. This is the age of the voluptuously, shapely woman, sticks are most definitely out this season!

There are a lot of women who are required to wear large sized clothes because of the way their bodies are structured. Being large does not mean you have to wear maternity bras or boxer briefs and feel like a nun. In fact, most men prefer a woman that actually looks like a woman! and more importantly has the body of a woman!

Sexy plus size lingerie is designed to help you feel like your true, sexy self once again. Plus size lingerie comes in all conceivable designs, shapes, sizes, colors and types.

Choose From An Incredibly Wide Range Of Great Sexy Plus Size Lingerie...

Bras are one of the most common pieces of lingerie. They can be found in women's wardrobes all over the world and there are a huge number of varieties, shapes and types available.

Plus size bras fit women with larger bust sizes. A simple look at some of the popular types will show you just how sexy and modern these bras are.

Panties are another hugely important component of any woman's wardrobe. Panties manufactured these days are designed to be comfortable, stylist and sexy. Plus size panties do not lack these characteristics in any way.

Other pieces of popular lingerie available in plus sizes are corsets, teddies, chemises, Body Stockings, bustiers, costumes, gowns, bridal lingerie and finally, something that sounds like the ultimate paradox - the plus size Baby doll lingerie.

Use Your Lingerie To Send Your Partner Into A Frenzy!

Sexy plus size lingerie does not have to be only for the brave or daring. Every woman has the right to look beautiful and desirable and plus size lingerie helps you achieve exactly that.

Lingerie can help provide that bit of spice to any occasion or event. It has the ability to turn an evening from ordinary to stunning in a few minutes, which is the amount of time it takes for you to get into your lingerie.

You can choose your lingerie not only according to occasions, but also according to themes. This is where costumes come in handy. Instead of wearing sexy plus size lingerie for a special evening like everyone else does, why not go in for a costume? That's bound to dazzle your partner and ensure that the evening stays in both of your minds for a long, long time.

The types of costumes available for different themes are almost endless. You can dress yourself up as Marilyn Monroe, a bat woman, a cat woman, a nurse, a cop or even as a school girl.

For those of you who are really daring, there are body stockings. Designed to steam up any private party, they'll make sure you have the time of your life. There are colors and types available to suit any body tone and shape and are sure to make you let go of yourself and have some serious fun.

Choosing the kind of sexy plus size lingerie you want to wear is purely a matter of personal choice. Remember, big is beautiful!

- About The Author
Kalwant Rana is A Freelance Writer For http://www.justforbras.com.
You Can Find Lots Of Useful Information About All Kinds Of Bras, From Sports Bras To Maternity Bras.

What To Do When Your Sex Drive Disappears by: Rod Phillips

2006-11-14T07:30:00.000-08:00

It's important to keep on having sex: sex maintains good health, and it can definitely help to maintain your loving feelings towards your partner. But life presents many challenges - the demands of work, family, stress, financial pressure, physical health challenges, and so on. How can we keep ourselves sexually active in the face of so many conflicting pressures? (Later in this article we'll look at how to cope with a natural decrease in your sex drive as you get older.)

The first step is to maintain open and honest communication. For example, if one partner is feeling sexual and the other is not, then good communication can ensure that neither partner takes the situation personally; in other words, you don't need to interpret the fact that your partner's level of desire and arousal is lower than yours as a reflection of how attractive you are. Rather, you can use certain techniques to harmonize the relationship.

First, if your partner feels sexual and you don't, be careful how you respond to their advances. To some extent their self-esteem is bound to be related to how attractive they feel, and that in turn is likely to be related to how you respond to any sexual overtures they may make towards you. If you don't want sex, tell them so in a way which doesn't hurt them. We all take our sexual attractiveness to others as a sign of our self-worth. If you happen to be in bed, don't roll over and go to sleep. Offer them a cuddle, and turn towards them, so you can share feelings of love and affection, and touch and kiss them.

Second, consider whether you could have sex with them or not even if you think you don't feel like it. Sexual energy is within all of us and available to most of us with very little effort - and if you can summon it up in response to your partner's sexual advances it could become energizing and revitalizing for you.

Third, if your reluctance to have sex is based on disharmony in the relationship, then talk about what is going on, or get some professional counseling help. If your lack of desire is simply due to exhaustion or worry, then put an alternative time for sexual intimacy in your diary and stick to it.

Lastly, if you don't want to be sexual in the sense of enjoying intercourse, there are many alternatives for you to consider:

Make love with your hands or mouth

If you don't want intercourse, but your partner is looking for sex, then offering to masturbate them or give them oral sex may be a good alternative. This can be fun and enjoyable for you as well as your partner, and it certainly gives you a chance to see your partner's body in a way that you wouldn't during normal intercourse. However, it may still be too sexually charged for you, and you might therefore want to suggest to your partner that they try the next idea.

Self-pleasuring while lying in your arms

Yes, masturbation can be a fun thing for couples to share. In fact I believe it is much better if they do, because one partner very often feels excluded when they discover that their partner has been secretly masturbating. Men in particular may think nothing of a quick session of self-pleasure, but their female partners can be very upset and may feel very excluded if they learn that their partner has been masturbating without their knowledge. While men may not want to give up this source of self-pleasure, it's worth trying a new approach, because there's a whole new depth of pleasure to be gained from masturbating when you are in intimate contact with your partner. Very often the sight of a partner masturbating is sexually arousing for the other partner and will lead to them joining in. But whether this happens or not, such self-pleasuring in a supportive environment is an excellent way to bridge the gap between two partners whose sexual desire is unequal in strength and urgency.

There is always the alternative of masturbating by yourself. But if you do this, make sure that you are not doing it in a way that enhances feelings of shame or guilt about the activity! Self-pleasuring is a fun thing, and it's certainly a natural part of human sexuality!

Massage and touch

Another great alternative to sexual contact when you don't feel in the mood is massage. There are many ways to make this a rewarding experience; alternating light an heavy touches, using feathers or rabbit fur, using strokes of varying pressure and intensity, chopping, cupping and so on. Touching does not have to be a two-way exchange: one partner can touch the other for as long as they like with or without the expectation of the touch being returned. Here's a link to a great massage site, where you can find out some basic information on how to do it.

Touch alone is a great healer, and if you are too tired to make love or massage each other, then at least touch each other before you go to sleep. Touch can of course convey negative emotions as well as positive ones, so it's worth ensuring that you feel positive towards your partner before you do this!

There's an interesting fact about ageing which suggests that men and women become more sexually compatible - at least in terms of desire - as they get older. A man's testosterone level drops steadily from about twenty years of age, while a woman's increases. Testosterone is the hormone of sexual desire, so men and women may find that their sexual desire becomes more equal as time goes by. But sex alone is not enough to sustain a relationship: love and ever-increasing intimacy are the building blocks of a great relationship.

One of the main sexual changes for women in mid-life is that their level of desire often is much lower than it has been in the past. There's no easy answer to this, though maintaining intimacy and a desire for connection (which lies at the root of sexual intimacy) will go a long way towards maintaining sexual desire. Another common symptom of the post-menopausal years is a dry vagina - but there are plenty of lubricants on the market which can help out here.

For men in mid-life or later, sexual urgency and desire may decrease, but perhaps the most important change for them is that their erections become more elusive. Often direct physical stimulation is needed to get it up - a far cry from the days of youth when his erections popped up all over the place for no apparent reason at all!

As time goes by, a man's erection will also be less firm than it was in his younger days. What's more, he will, from time to time, find that his penis becomes soft during sex. This is so common as to be considered normal, though that may be no consolation to the man in question! Often his fear that he'll never have an erection again makes the whole situation worse. But you know what? It isn't a disaster. First, there's Viagra and its more recent counterparts, Levitra and Cialis. Second, it's possible to enter a woman's vagina with a soft cock, and then pump it erect inside her by using your PC muscles.

The way to do this is to circle the penis with finger and thumb, then push the blood into the shaft and head by running the circling fingers firmly along the shaft. A common variation of this technique is to use a rubber ring that fits around the base of the penis and keeps the blood inside the penis. Often a vacuum pump can be helpful in getting the penis erect in the first place. It's important not to get to hung up about having an erection, and to stop watching anxiously for it to arrive! In such a situation, a man's emotional focus needs to be external - he can think of something that arouses him, for example. One of the major benefits of ageing for a man is that his desire to ejaculate decreases markedly. He can naturally become a long lasting lover without any fear of premature ejaculation!

And it's important to remember that the loving connection and the joy of lovemaking are probably more important than having an ejaculation. What's more, most men over 50 will find that if they do not ejaculate they will be able to achieve an erection and have sex again much sooner than if they do.

A final thought: love is not based on the quantity of orgasms you have, but on the quality of the love that you experience in your relationship with your partner.

- About The Author
Rod Phillips is an on-line counselor with Sex And Relationships, http://www.sex-and-relationships.com.

A step by step guide to sexy smokey eye makeup by: Donna Kelly

2006-11-14T07:19:00.000-08:00

There is no eye makeup look sexier than smoldering smokey eyes. The good news is smokey eyes is an easy makeup look to perfect. Our step by step guide shows you how you too can have sexy, smoldering smokey eye makeup in just a few minutes.

Smokey Eye Makeup Guide Step 1: Choose your eye shadow colours.

The traditional smokey eye makeup colours are, of course, black or grey. You are however not limited to these colour choices, you can also use less intense colours such as: violet, chocolate, coffee, dark pink, copper, dark green, dark blue or purple.

Remember when choosing eye shadow shades that colours should be chosen keeping in mind your eye colour, hair colour and skin tone and not the colour of the clothes you wear.

For smokey eye makeup you will need to choose 2 colour coordinated eye shadows. A darker feature colour and a lighter supporting colour.

For smokey eye makeup what feature colour eye shadow best suits blue eyes?

For Blue eyes, in addition to black or grey, violet, purple or dark blue eye shadow will look great. The dark blue eye shadow in particular, as it will be darker than your eye colour, will accentuate your blue eyes.

For smokey eye makeup what feature colour eye shadow best suits green or hazel eyes?

For Green or Hazel eyes, in addition to black or grey, try a deep khaki, dark green, brown, purple or plum colour eye shadow.

For smokey eye makeup what feature colour eye shadow best suits brown eyes?

For Brown eyes, in addition to black or grey, copper, coffee, and brown will give you a great smokey eye effect.

Once you have chosen your feature eye shadow colour you need to choose your supporting eye shadow colour. If you prefer to use single eye shadows, rather than a colour coordinated duo or triple eye shadow, choose a light colour eye shadow that matches your feature eye shadow colour. Possible colours to choose from, for a soft sophisticated look, are: lilac, light peach, champagne, taupe, nude or a sand color. For a more dramatic high contrast look you could use a whitish colour eye shadow.

Smokey eye makeup tip: Use powdery eye shadows. Do not use creamy texture eye shadows as they are more difficult to smudge and blend.

Smokey Eye Makeup Guide Step 2: Choose your eyeliner pencil.

Choose a soft eyeliner pencil of the same colour or a complementary shade to your feature eye shadow.

Smokey eye makeup tip: If possible choose a Powderliner eyeliner pencil. They are easier to blend and are sometimes available with a sponge tip for easy blending.

Smokey eye makeup tip: Never use liquid eyeliner. Liquid eyeliners are better for sharper lines, not a soft and sultry finish.

Smokey Eye Makeup Guide Step 3: Apply your foundation base.

Normally you would apply your full foundation before applying your eye makeup. This is not the case when doing smokey eye makeup. You should apply your eye makeup first, that way if you get some of your eye shadow on the rest of your face you won’t ruin your foundation. This also helps avoid a raccoon eye look under your eye. For smoother eye shadow application, that lasts longer, you do however want to first apply a thin layer of foundation to your eyelids followed by a thin layer of face powder to set the foundation. This will give you a clean canvas for your eye shadow and will also help to prevent the eye shadow from creasing. This will also give you more even, accurate, eye shadow application.

Smokey Eye Makeup Guide Step 4: Apply your eyeliner.

Line both the top and bottom rims of your eyes with your eyeliner pencil. Typically you would use a black or charcoal eyeliner pencil but you can also use a dark eyeliner pencil that matches your feature eye shadow colour. Make sure to go into the eyelash line itself (near the root of your eyelashes). Be sure to fill in any bare spaces between the eyelashes. Start from the inner corner of your eyes with a fine line. As you go outwards towards the corner of your eye make the line heavier. If you have any hard lines from using a heavy eyeliner pencil you will want to lightly smudge the line so it is softer and less harsh looking. This step is made a lot easier by using a Powderliner eyeliner pencil with a built in sponge tip for smudging.

Smokey eye makeup tip: Dark colors trend to make small eyes look even smaller. You can open your eyes up by applying eyeliner starting from the middle of the bottom eye eyelash line, rather than the inside corner, and going to the outer corner of the eye. If your eyes are not smallish feel free to apply the eyeliner from corner to corner.

Smokey Eye Makeup Guide Step 5: Apply your eye shadows

Using your larger eye shadow brush apply your supporting eye shadow colour to your eyelids, up to the base of your eyebrows.

Now, using your feature eye shadow colour, and your small eye shadow brush, apply your dark feature eye shadow onto the eyeliner and then blend it upward to the crease of your eyelid. When blending your feature eye shadow keep as much of the colour intensity as possible along the eyelash line and particularly in the outer corners of your eyes.

Smokey eye makeup tip: Remember smudge and blend so the eyeliner and eye shadows go together seamlessly.

Smokey Eye Makeup Guide Step 6: Apply your mascara

Smokey eye makeup tip: Curl your eyelashes before applying mascara, this opens your eyes up.

Apply 2 or 3 coats of black mascara applying the mascara in thin coats to avoid clumping.

Smokey Eye Makeup Guide Step 7: Complete your smokey eye makeup look

Complete your foundation being careful not to mess up your beautiful smokey eyes.

Keeping your lips neutral gives smokey eyes their real impact. Use a flesh toned lip pencil and a pink or caramel shade of lipstick or lip gloss to give your lips a subtle finish.

For your eyebrows you can use your normal eyebrow pencil. You could also use a shade darker than normal to complement your smokey eyes.

Apply a subtle finish of rose or tawny blusher just to the apples of your cheeks blending away to the edges into your hairline. This finishes the face without competing with your smoldering smokey eyes.

Enjoy your sexy, smoldering smokey eye makeup look !

- About The Author
Donna Kelly is a trained makeup artist with her own beauty business. As both a business woman and a mom with 2 children Donna understands the time pressures on women today and through this, and other articles, has endeavored to take the complexity out of looking great with some "busy women friendly" beauty tips and advice. If you would like to read more of Donna's articles check out her website: http://www.coloursandscents.co.nz

Lingerie: It Can Be Both Sexy And Comfortable by: Hazel Smith

2006-11-14T07:16:00.000-08:00

Between men and woman there will always be different opinions on what to buy. Lingerie can be sexy, and comfortable as well as long it is the right size. Don’t try to wear bras and underwear for the size you want to be, wear the right size for you and you will be more comfortable and definitely more yourself.

It is estimated that over 70% of women wear the wrong bra size. A bra that is too tight can leave a pinching red mark on your back caused by the tightened elastic. It will also lead to bad posture because the breasts are not supported correctly. If you are wearing a bra where you are coming out of it or your curves not smooth than the bra may be too small. If the strap of the bra is coming up from under your rib cage the bra may be too small as well. Make sure to have the correct measurements and then go from there.

In buying underwear it depends on what the occasion will be as you would probably not wear the same underwear painting your house as you would if you were at the clubs. A thong can be a sexy piece of underwear with the right outfit but it can also be uncomfortable at times. Pick the underwear that fits you, comfortable, and fits the occasion.

When buying sexy lingerie pick something that could get your lover excited but don’t just pick it because you want to see either your partner or you in it, pick it for your partner as you will be happier later. You can shop for lingerie together or make a surprise gift for a special occasion or just to surprise them. Its all about what taste you have: if you like it try it, if not leave it. It all matters as to what can turn a couple on, not anyone else.

- About The Author
Hazel Smith writes for http://www.lingerie-pastel.com, a website packed with lingerie articles and resources

The Best Buttocks Exercises for a Tighter Sexier Butt and Thighs by: Mike Geary

2006-11-14T07:09:00.000-08:00

Want to know what the best buttocks exercise is to get that sexy tight firm butt? I don't think I know one single woman that doesn't want to achieve a tighter firmer butt and slim toned thighs.

Well, the answer to your quest for the best buttocks exercise is not in some fancy machine or butt blaster. In fact, most of your best butt exercises are simply done with bodyweight or free weights. I'll cover one of the most effective exercises for tightening the old buttocks in this article.

It's called the single-legged Romanian Deadlift. It's a great exercise for firming both the buttocks and the back of the thighs. Also, because this is a single-legged exercise, it really helps strengthen your ankles and other stabilizer muscles throughout your legs. Here's how to do it:

1. Looking straight ahead, stand and balance on one leg, and kick the other leg out slightly behind you.

2. Maintain a very slight bend in the knee throughout this exercise.

3. Now start to bend forward while simultaneously pushing the butt and hips back and keeping a flat (not rounded) back.

4. While bending over and pushing the hips back, kick your other leg out behind you and reach down with your hands towards the toe of your foot that's planted on the ground and try to touch it. You should feel a stretch in the hamstrings as you get to the deepest part where your back is parallel to the floor.

5. Then, focus on squeezing the butt muscle hard while you reverse the movement and bring yourself back to upright (all the while maintaining that flat back)

Alright, that was one rep! Now do 5-10 reps with each leg for 2-3 sets mixing this exercise into one of your normal workouts (or even just try this at home in your living room). At the end of a couple of sets, I guarantee you'll be feeling this big-time in your butt and the back of your thighs!

I know it may sound a little complicated, and the first time you try this buttocks exercise, you may really need to concentrate on your balance. But after a couple sessions of practicing these one-legged romanian deadlifts, you'll start to get the hang of them and be able to focus more concentration on keeping the butt tight throughout the range of motion.

Once you get this down and practice this killer butt and thigh exercise regularly, you'll be well on your way to showing off a tighter, sexier butt! See below for more amazing butt and thigh exercises.

- About The Author
Michael Geary (CPT) is a recognized International Fitness Expert, contributing writer for Muscle & Fitness Hers Magazine, and author of the internationally-selling book, The Truth about 6-Pack Abs. More buttocks and thigh exercises guaranteed to tighten your butt, hips, and thighs fast are revealed at Exercises for a Sexier Butt. Grab your free instructions and photos http://SexyButtExercises.com/ If you'd like to find the best methods to attain a flat sexy tummy, go to Flatten Your Stomach.

Juicy Tips for Better Sex by: Leah Holden

2006-11-14T06:52:00.000-08:00

It is no doubt that sex, plays a major part in maintaining a healthy and long lasting relationship. Many researches and surveys conducted over the years have concluded that one of the main keys to a happy and fulfilling relationship is great sexual experience.

Yet, many people are having problem enjoying sex with their partners. There are many reasons for this problem. The more common ones are psychological, cultural, early childhood experience and so forth.

The good news is, for so long as the individual or couple realise that sex is the number one killer or saver to their relationship and they are willing to change, there are thousands of tips available in books, magazines, internet and sex video for better sex.

Experimenting on these better sex tips allow you to have a pleasurable experience during the sexual act. They also give you the confidence to orchestra and enjoy the sexual experience with your partner.

The internet is also turning out to be a major source where couples look for tips for better sex. I have outlined below some of the juicy tips for better sex.

The first tip is to take the initiative. Taking the initiative will break the ice between the couple and also excite the opposite partner. Always be on the look out for adding novelties to your sex life.

Sex does not need to be performed in the bedroom only. It can be done in the basement or under the stairs or just about anywhere you wish. Some examples are, in the car, on the beach. The ideal location is only limited by your own imagination.

Create a sexy mood and the right kind of environment for having sex. For example, you can pull down the colorful curtains and light candles in the bedroom. You can also go for scented candles. Playing soft music in the background would also add spice to the sexual environment that you want to create.

Having sex in the bath can prove to be a totally different experience. It sure builds up the overall excitement. In case of using the vibrator, ask your partner to user it in you instead of using the vibrator solo. Try choosing the vibrator and sex toys with your partners, this will help building up his or her anticipation.

Try out newer positions to have sex. This will again lead to more excitement and add a lot of spice in the whole sexual act. Ask your partner to do different things on you and tell him / her which things turn you on. Repeat the act if you both like it very much.

Sex is a pleasurable activity that does not have time limits. Sex ends when both the partners are completely satisfied after the act. Sex is not a duty that should be completed in a fixed period of time.

You should try different types of stimulations on your partner every time you both have sex. Try to masturbate your partner instead of letting him or her do the act on his / her own.

At the end of the day, let your imagination run wild, do whatever is necessary to arouse yours and your partner's sex drive and enjoy the experience.

- About The Author
Leah Holden is The "Better Sex Expert". Leah's mission is sharing her vast array of sexual knowledge with individuals and couples. To spice up your sex life, please visit Leah's blog, http://better--sex.blogspot.com

A Plus Size Gown Will Make You Look Even More Sexier, Highlighting Your Beautifully Voluptuous Body. by: Kalwant Rana

2006-11-14T06:41:00.000-08:00

A plus size pantie is a popular choice of underwear for women who think a thong or g-string is just way too uncomfortable.

Panties can be found in all sorts of shapes, colors and designs. For those who require something on the larger side, a plus sized pantie come to the rescue.

The panties of today were first sold in the 1950s and 60s and became hugely popular within a very short span of time. Before this, they were just a simple piece of clothing. However, with the emergence of prints and newer fabrics, panties suddenly became a fashion statement.

Britain was not far behind. First sold there in the 1960s, briefs caught the imagination of the British public. Not long after they were launched there, shops were soon selling about 3,000 pairs a week.

A popular piece of modern underwear is the thong. As you may there is not much of this type of underwear and the effect that it will have your partner is sure to keep things hot and steamy. As larger more voluptuous women, we have what all those stick insects secretly crave for, yes that's right!...curves. And thongs are a perfect piece to really show off those assets.

As a side note, thong underwear is hugely popular and is one of the fastest selling underwear styles among women.

Stretch mesh thong plus size pantie made from lace are also very popular. They're stylish and are very comfortable. Lace stretch mesh panties come in a wide variety of colors designed to suit every taste. These colors include hot pink, red, black and purple to really get the temperature rising.

Another extremely popular type of plus size pantie is the crotch less pantie. These panties are designed in such a way that they are either wide open at the crotch or have a covering that can be opened. They are perfect when you're feeling temptuously sexy and in the mood for some real excitement

- About The Author
Kalwant Rana is A Freelance Writer For http://www.sexy-plus-size-lingerie-org.uk. You Can Find Lots Of Useful Information And Reviews About All Kinds Of Plus Size Lingerie From Simple Bras To Sexy Costumes.

Sexually Stimulating Herbs by: Knut Holt

2006-11-14T06:36:00.000-08:00

Herbs have been used in all cultures around the world to stimulate sexual arousal, physical sexual feelings and sexual abilities. In the modern world herbs are increasingly more used both to increase the sexual pleasure and as medicine to help for sexual dysfunctions. The herbs are used both in their original form or the working substances are extracted and used as ingredients in tinctures, ointments or pills.

THE GENERAL PRINCIPLES OF SEXUALLY STIMULATING HERBS

The working principles of the chemical components in these herbs are of several kinds, and the ingredients make their effects at different places in the human body.

- Some herbal ingredients stimulate generally the function of the neural system. Since sexual response and feelings are dependent of a well working neural system, the herbs will also increase the sexual response.

- Other herbal ingredients generally improve the body's blood circulation. The better blood flow and the better control of the blood flow will then make the genital organs work better and engorge better upon sexual stimulation. Better engorgement will stimulate the feeling bodies at the nerve endings in the sexual organs and thus give stronger physical feelings.

- There are components in some herbs that stimulate tissue growth and regeneration. Such components can make structures in the sexual organs grow stronger and more capable to do their work.

- Some herbal ingredients stimulate directly centres in the central nervous system that play an important role in the sexual response, and thus increase the psychological arousal. A higher psychological arousal will cause signals to be sent to the sexual organs so that they will engorge more strongly and produce more sexual secretions.

- Still other herbal components stimulate the feeling bodies in the genital organs directly, and will thereby give stronger physical feelings. The stimulation of the feeling bodies will also make the central nervous system send signals back to the sexual organs and make them work more efficient.

- Some herbal ingredients will stimulate the production of sexual hormones or other hormones important for the sexual functions, or they will normalize a disturbed hormonal system. SOME IMPORTANT HERBS USED FOR SEXUAL STIMULATION Here are some important sexually stimulating herbs presented. Many of the herbs stimulate the human organism at several points and thus have more than one type of effect. Where not otherwise indicated, both men and women will feel the stimulating effect.

- Bayberry: The fruits increase blood flow and capillary dilation in the mucus membranes of the vagina, and thus stimulate vaginal lubrication.

- Catuaba: Catuaba is a South American bush. It has long been used as an aphrodisiac by Indians, and is the most important sexually stimulating plant used in South America nowadays. Catuaba generally stimulates the central nervous system, and especially the functions controlling sexual response.

- Cayenne (Cayenne pepper, Spanish pepper): From the fruit one gets a well known spice with a very strong taste. The spice stimulates tissue growth and regeneration. This will make the sexual organs stronger and more efficient. Cayenne also makes the digestion and intestinal functions more effective and promotes heart functions.

- Coffee or tea stimulates the central nervous system to a higher activity and thereby also the sexual arousal. Taking a cup of coffee before sexual activity is often a good idea.

- Cuscuta: The seeds of cuscuta stimulate and normalizes the part of the nervous system that controls the sexual organs. This effect helps control premature ejaculation, helps control urination and vitalizes the functions of the sexual organs. It also has a general stimulating effect upon the nervous system.

- Damiana: Damiana is a small Mexican shrub, of which the leaves are used for medical purposes. Damiana stimulates the function of the sympathetic nerves controlling the sexual organs, the urinary system, the digestive organs and the respiratory organs. The herb thus strengthens all the functions of the sexual organs and urinary system. The herbs have many of the same effects as the female hormone progesterone, and therefore the herb works especially effective for women.

- Ginseng: There are many species of the herb ginseng, growing both in East Asia and Northern America. Ginseng stimulates neural functions and bodily activities. Ginseng stimulates and normalizes the blood flow in the brain and sexual organs. Ginseng also stimulates nerve growth, blood production and sperm production. This stimulation will in turn give a general rejuvenating effect, stronger arousal, better genital functions and stronger physical feelings.

- Hawthorn: Hawthorn is a tree growing in all temperate zones of the world. The fruits are used. Hawthorn stimulates heart functions and blood flow, and helps to reduce atherosclerotic plaque in blood vessels. This general positive effect upon blood circulation will in turn improve sexual functions as for example female engorgement and male erection.

- Horny goat weed (Epidemium): This is an East Asian herb. The whole plant except the root is used in herbal preparations. This herb stimulates the sensorial bodies in the sexual organs, giving stronger genital feelings. It also increases sperm production, giving better fertility. It further stimulates sexual desire by acting upon the central nervous system. The herb also increases the general activity of the nervous system and thereby the general vitality.

- Johimbe; Johimbe is a tall and evergreen tree growing in tropical areas of Africa. The bark stimulates the blood flow in the genitals and therefore helps against erection problems. However, in higher doses the drug can cause hypertension, digestive problems and manic reactions.

- Maca; This South American herb stimulates sexual desire and drive.

- Muira Pauma: Muria Puama is a Brazilian shrub, known as "Potency Wood". Extracts of the bark is used. Muira Puama stimulates sexual desire and libido, and thereby increases potency.

- Suma: Suma root stimulates and normalizes the hormone production of the whole body, both the production of systemic hormones and local hormones. The improved hormonal system will then improve mental and physical sexual functions.

- Peppermint: Leaves of the peppermint plant stimulate the secretion of lubricating substances in the genital system. This facilitates the sexual act and protects the sexual organ against injury. On the market you can find pills, tinctures or teas made of one or more of these herbs. What herbs or herbal product you should choose, depend on your purpose. The purposes are generally of 6 kinds:

- Increased libido or sexual desire.
- Increased feelings in the genital region.
- Better erection or sexual performance.
- Better lubrication.
- Increased strength or size of the genitals.
- Increased fertility.

- About The Author Knut Holt is an internet consultant and marketer focusing on health items. TO FIND natural medicines against sexual problems, sexually stimulating herbal preparations, and natural medicines against digestive problems, allergy, asthma, acne, eczema, rosacea, scars, wrinkles, over-weight, hypertension, heart disease, hypothyroidism, hemorrhoids, depression and other common health problems, PLEASE VISIT:---- http://www.panteraconsulting.com ----Free to reprint with the author's name and link.

The Biggest Mistakes Women Make During Sex With Men by: Rod Phillips

2006-11-14T06:13:00.000-08:00

Women: The Top Mistakes You Make During Sex With Your Man!

By the authors at http://www.sex-and-relationships.com

Compiled from a lot of emails over the years asking for help with relationship issues in general, and sex in particular, we've compiled this list of the gravest errors women can make when it comes to getting down 'n' dirty with their menfolk!

1 Behaving like he's a mind reader - or dropping "clues" about what you want

This is a very feminine game, but it won't get you what you want. Men just don't think that way, and it's disrespectful to later blame them for something they could never figure out from such indirect communication. Drop the games, and be direct. Good communication is everything in a relationship. For example, if you want oral sex, ask him to go down on you. If you're embarrassed about it, use language which makes your meaning clear: "I'd like you to kiss my bits" will do - anything that gets your meaning across. And, though you may find it difficult, if he's working on bringing you to orgasm, he'll need feedback to make sure he carries on enthusiastically. Losing your self in your bliss and not saying anything will make him wonder if you're asleep, dead or uninterested, at which point he'll most likely stop.

2 Resenting him when you don't get what you want

What, didn't you read number 1 above? If you want, say, more foreplay, then you need to say so. If he charges straight into your erogenous zones after a few minutes' kissing, then you need to educate him about what you want. Men are much more quickly aroused than women on the whole, and they simply need slowing down. One great way to do this is to make sure you get an orgasm before you have intercourse (see below). And you can always distract him with a spot of fellatio, or by licking him all over. As a woman you're likely to be more creative than he is, so maybe you can apply your creative skills to sex, and improve it for both of you!

3 Not realizing that "Women come first"!

Well, maybe not in everything, but it's not a bad rule to follow during sex. Men lose interest very rapidly after they've ejaculated: like it or not, that's how they are biologically built (in fact they are programmed to sleep after sex) and unless they're especially sensitive, once they've come, they won't be much interested in your satisfaction. The best way to deal with this is to have extended foreplay which includes him giving you oral sex or pleasuring you with his fingers until you come.....then it's his turn. This way he'll be very turned on, and enjoy a big orgasm when he does come inside you - or in any other way. (And in case you don't know, men really do like the sight, smell and taste of your vulva!)

4 Being much more critical of your body than he is

It's hard for women to believe, but it is true. In general, men are much less critical of your nobody than you are. When you start hiding it during sex, or refusing to enjoy certain sexual positions because you fear what he might think of your body, he's likely to get very disenchanted, very quickly. If you need reassurance that your body is OK, remember rule number 1: ask him for it. Say, for example, "I'm feeling a bit insecure about my tits/bottom/belly/whatever. Do you find them attractive?" or, "Do you like my body?"

5 Not being assertive during sex

It's an old, old stereotype: men lead, women follow. Well, that certainly shouldn't be true all the time in sex. Even if you like him to be masculine and dominant during sex, or even if you like to feel as if you're being "taken" sometimes, it's just as nice for him to see your assertive side. Take the lead from time to time: give him a treat - woman on top or rear entry will push all his sexual buttons and make him wonder if his birthday has come early.

6 Being critical of his performance

Nothing, but nothing, will turn a man off faster (especially if he thinks he's doing well) than being critical. If he comes too soon for you, if he doesn't give you enough pleasure, if he's too rough or he touches you too hard or soft, or whatever, the answer does NOT lie in criticism! Instead, find a way of gently expressing your feelings and tell him what would like instead. For example, "When you don't look at me when you enter me I miss the feeling of intimacy with you" or "I like it when you do that, but I'd like it even more if you slowed down, touched to the side of my clitoris, thrust harder/softer...." and so on.

7 Treating his penis as if it were your clitoris

Which means - handle it more firmly. He'll soon tell you if you do it wrong. In general, men masturbate with much more pressure than is acceptable for a woman: her clitoris is simply too sensitive. You need to do it differently for him, especially as he approaches orgasm, when he really will like a firm touch. (Having said that, he'll still enjoy feather light touches from your well-lubed hand in the early stages of your sex play - try saliva as a quick and easy lube.) 8 Refusing oral sex Well, this may be contentious, but I'll say it anyway. Most women don't really understand how important oral sex is to men. Sure, you know men like it (how could you not!), but you may not understand how important it is. And this isn't some crude male desire to dominate you. Men love oral sex because the intimacy and trust of the act is signals your love. Taking his penis into your mouth is not just a sign of accepting his penis, but also signals to him your total acceptance of him as a man: in his mind this may be an act of the greatest possible intimacy. By the way - you don't have to let him ejaculate in your mouth, let alone swallow his semen.

- About The Author
Rod Phillips is a sexual therapist at http://www.sex-and-relationships.com.

Better Sex Tips for Women by: Leah Holden

2006-11-14T05:57:00.000-08:00

A good amount of pleasurable sexual act is undeniably one of the most important components which helps to build and maintain a successful and rewarding relationship. In most cases, good sex speaks louder than words when it comes down to love and intimacy between both partners.

Both partners are equally responsible for giving the others a total sexual pleasure. It is very easy sometimes for a woman to think it is her man's responsibility to give her sexual pleasure and to make her come. From time to time, certain women would also have the idea that they should not be too wild in bed, as this might give their partner a sense of insecurity! This is a total myth and one which should be addressed immediately if she ever hopes to have a totally satisfying relationship!

Women sure can be charming by the way they present themselves and also by the way they dress up. But, men like women who are also great in bed. Men like women who take the initiative and are confident in their sexual act. Men like women who give them complete pleasure and satisfaction at the end of the sexual act and they themselves should feel satisfied with their partners.

It is often said that only when women have 7 times the pleasure as men that women can reach an orgasm. This is totally wrong! The truth is, a woman can have no orgasm but that does not mean she is not satisfied with the sexual experience. At the same time, a woman may have multiple orgasms. The ultimate aim for a woman would be to satisfy her partner and herself.

A woman should devise new ways to excite her man in the beginning and get him involved completely in the sexual act. She can also gift herself or her man sex videos. This is certainly going to turn both of them on. Sex videos are a great resource to learn the finer and more beautiful nuances of sex. Videos also help you learn different better sex positions so that sex does not become a monotonous act.

A better sex tips for women would be to get stimulated in the beginning. Performing sex just for the sake of doing it won't bring in any enthusiasm and pleasure. The most important part is to be you throughout the whole sexual act.

Women should be as flexible as possible in the whole sexual experience. Try out different things to excite your partner. Like, tying a handkerchief around his eyes and then slowly running your fingers on his body or, you can write erotic stories and then narrate them to your partner in order to stimulate him and respond to your demands.

Communication, both verbal and sexual is another important aspect which help to improve your love life. Tell your partner how comfortable you feel in his arms and thank him for the great sexual experience. Tell him that you would like to take the fantastic journey as much as you can. This is sure going to build a stronger sexual bond between you and your partner.

You can also create an environment to excite your partner like lighting candles in the room, keeping the room dark, playing soft love songs which you both enjoy and so on.

At the end of the day, it is a matter of communication, both verbal and sexual, that is going to make your relationship works. Be selfless and live for the moment for each other.

- About The Author
Leah Holden is The "Better Sex Expert". Leah's mission is sharing her vast array of sexual knowledge with individuals and couples. To spice up your sex life, please visit Leah's blog, http://better--sex.blogspot.com